Tips on resources to teach kids about social media risks, smart phone use risks etc....

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helloeveryone
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Tips on resources to teach kids about social media risks, smart phone use risks etc....

Post by helloeveryone » Tue Jan 14, 2020 10:47 am

I don’t know how to frame this question very well but will try my best.

Kids will in the next few years be at the age where we will get them a smart phone (I’m hoping to wait till high school but odds are it may happen in middle school). Right now they use home ipad or old iphones and we use these opportunities to teach about limiting screen time, posting anything is permanent, not being online bullies and recognizing online bullying and what to do about it, assuming the person leaving comments/messages could be a predator pretending etc....

Any good resource (book, great article etc...) that can teach parents what discussions they should have with their kids to ensure safe use of smart phones. Or that gives a comprehensive overview of what parents should consider as kids get their own phones and social media accounts.

For example - teaching about money - First National Bank of Dad was great. Is there such a resource for phones as it relates to teaching about social media, online bullying, not falling for scams, etc....

There are actually not many threads on BH about this. I link a couple below but you have to read many many different threads.

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mhalley
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Post by mhalley » Tue Jan 14, 2020 12:24 pm

This site seems pretty good.
https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/
Videos for the younglings
https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/je ... ds-videos/
And this one for teens/tweens
https://www.nsteens.org/

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Post by setancre » Tue Jan 14, 2020 12:32 pm

I don't have any specific resources to recommend but am in a similar boat.
I read the below article last month and found it very eye-opening (in a disturbing way), so hopefully you'll get some insightful responses.

https://medium.com/@sloane_ryan/im-a-37 ... 25e81c8e7d

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Post by rj342 » Tue Jan 14, 2020 12:37 pm

Semi-related topic, although probably not really relevant to them until high school, if not until college.
They really, really need to have [at least?] two email accounts later on -- one that is their truly personal one and another that has their name more formally for 'official' use. Maybe other email aliases for gamer nicknames, etc.

I taught 6 years as university instructor in the Oughts, and you wouldn't believe some of the students email names they used on their non-school email accounts. Sexual, crude, smartass, just completely cryptic, or otherwise embarrassing.

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Post by mimiesg » Tue Jan 14, 2020 12:41 pm

https://humanetech.com/

I found this helpful as a starting point.

Also this guy makes some very important points:

https://www.calnewport.com/books/deep-work/

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Post by lazydavid » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:33 pm

Larry Magid's Safekids.com has recently partnered with Connect Safely:

https://www.connectsafely.org/

All sorts of resources there.

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Post by gac1979 » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:41 pm

I believe in an incremental approach. My daughter is in elementary school and many of her friends started getting phones. So, I pulled the SIM card out my old iPhone 6s and let her buy a new case. So, now she has a “phone”, but can’t call or text. She has access to the internet and AppStore. We figure that she can learn and exhibit good behavior and then move on up to a real phone in a few years.

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Post by oldfatguy » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:43 pm

gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:41 pm
I believe in an incremental approach. My daughter is in elementary school and many of her friends started getting phones. So, I pulled the SIM card out my old iPhone 6s and let her buy a new case. So, now she has a “phone”, but can’t call or text. She has access to the internet and AppStore. We figure that she can learn and exhibit good behavior and then move on up to a real phone in a few years.
That seems far more dangerous than calling and texting.

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Post by gac1979 » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:51 pm

oldfatguy wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:43 pm
gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:41 pm
I believe in an incremental approach. My daughter is in elementary school and many of her friends started getting phones. So, I pulled the SIM card out my old iPhone 6s and let her buy a new case. So, now she has a “phone”, but can’t call or text. She has access to the internet and AppStore. We figure that she can learn and exhibit good behavior and then move on up to a real phone in a few years.
That seems far more dangerous than calling and texting.
Absolutely disagree. The AppStore is so well locked down by Apple and contains little if any malware. I can easily see what she downloads since it is tied to my Apple ID. I can also track her internet history and monitor what she does there and block sites if necessary.

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Post by oldfatguy » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:53 pm

gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:51 pm
oldfatguy wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:43 pm
gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:41 pm
I believe in an incremental approach. My daughter is in elementary school and many of her friends started getting phones. So, I pulled the SIM card out my old iPhone 6s and let her buy a new case. So, now she has a “phone”, but can’t call or text. She has access to the internet and AppStore. We figure that she can learn and exhibit good behavior and then move on up to a real phone in a few years.
That seems far more dangerous than calling and texting.
Absolutely disagree. The AppStore is so well locked down by Apple and contains little if any malware. I can easily see what she downloads since it is tied to my Apple ID. I can also track her internet history and monitor what she does there and block sites if necessary.
Sounds you think it is pretty dangerous, as well.

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Post by gac1979 » Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:59 pm

oldfatguy wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:53 pm
gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:51 pm
oldfatguy wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:43 pm
gac1979 wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:41 pm
I believe in an incremental approach. My daughter is in elementary school and many of her friends started getting phones. So, I pulled the SIM card out my old iPhone 6s and let her buy a new case. So, now she has a “phone”, but can’t call or text. She has access to the internet and AppStore. We figure that she can learn and exhibit good behavior and then move on up to a real phone in a few years.
That seems far more dangerous than calling and texting.
Absolutely disagree. The AppStore is so well locked down by Apple and contains little if any malware. I can easily see what she downloads since it is tied to my Apple ID. I can also track her internet history and monitor what she does there and block sites if necessary.
Sounds you think it is pretty dangerous, as well.
Sure, there is danger everywhere. It’s just way easier to monitor her behavior on the internet and AppStore than it is in situations such as calling and/or texting.

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Post by financeperchance » Tue Jan 14, 2020 3:19 pm

Please make sure you understand the recent research on the destructiveness of online porn, especially on the teenaged brain:
https://www.mdpi.com/2077-0383/8/1/91/htm
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamaps ... le/1874574

It's way different than Playboy magazine when we were teenagers. Today it's become highly weaponized, and the teenager doesn't stand a chance. Once your kids are 18 there's nothing you can do, but until then it's up to you to protect them.

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