TomatoTomahto wrote: ↑
Thu Sep 12, 2019 5:29 am
Kids, for now, get very little contiguous vacation time. What we have done is bribe them to come visit us by making our home as much of a resort as we can: pool, tennis court, etc. They come for long weekends when they can get away and don’t have a better offer elsewhere. They feel comfortable inviting their friends to stay. I absolutely love them to pieces and love our time together, but young people should spend majority of their time with other young people. Just my $0.02.
We sometimes invited them to join us on a ski vacation. They paid to get to/from the destination airport, we paid for trip. They could feel free to say no, and this was for twenty-something young men, and one of them was still at home (until 2 1/2 years ago), so it was really just inviting the other one. The last time we did this was December 2017 / January 2018. Now one is married, the other in a serious relationship, and we don't have any plans to repeat it. And that one was a disaster, lousy conditions and 3/4 of us got the flu despite flu shots.
We just asked our oldest, now married, IF they planned on taking a Christmas vacation, and they replied that they did not and would be home and working (except for the paid days off and weekends). We ASKED them if we decided to drive to that area of the country during our 16 day break, would they mind if we stayed a few days? They had the right to say no thanks (they invited us last year, but it was 3 weeks after the wedding and we declined).
As to setting up our retirement home to make it "attractive", I get where you're coming from. With one in California and one in Florida, and our planned retirement perhaps in SC, we don't know if making it attractive will be enough, but once the new grandchildren materialize (if they do, we have a 10 year old step-granddaughter), we would hope they'd visit every so often. Throughout their childhood we visited, or had the grandparents visit, at least every year (all were many states away). But again, that's their call. We plan on living on waterfront, in a nice area, but one is very close to the Atlantic and the other can drive to the Pacific if they want, and both are warm weather areas, so it has to be our magnetic personalities and toys laying around. Or perhaps grandchild sitting?
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