What is an appropriate retirement gift?

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What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Jags4186 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:21 am

Hello,

I was invited to a retirement party of a cousin of mine. She is 35 years my senior. It looks like they are asking for an Amazon gift card as the gift...what is an appropriate amount to give?

Thanks!

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Goal33 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:24 am

Had no idea people individually give gifts at a retirement party.
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Post by barnaclebob » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:25 am

I always find it weird to give money or an impersonal gift card like amazon to someone who is announcing to the world that they don't need any more money.

I say give a card and bottle of something to drink.

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Post by RickBoglehead » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:30 am

What I would say I have been told is not suitable for site that children might read, so I'll just say that it always surprises me when someone tells you what to give them, more so when it's a gift card. Really? You'd like cash? :annoyed
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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Jags4186 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:31 am

Don’t get me started on the realities of the situation. The only thing more mind boggling about the retirement gift is the announcement of “she’d like amazon gift cards as a gift” in the actual invitation. I’m thinking maybe $50...

In the retiree’s defense, it is a surprise party and her children are throwing the party. I would be surprised if the person retiring knew.
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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by leeks » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:32 am

I wouldn't have thought of that as a gift-giving occasion. If it were me, I'd only do a standard "showing up at someone else's house" aka "hostess" kind of gift: a bottle of wine...a loaf a homemade banana bread...a bouquet of flowers...a crate of clementines...etc.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by jebmke » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:35 am

This is one of the best retirement gifts I have received. I have given a couple as well.

https://dayclocks.com/
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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by stoptothink » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:37 am

Jags4186 wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:31 am
Don’t get me started on the realities of the situation. The only thing more mind boggling about the retirement gift is the announcement of “she’d like amazon gift cards as a gift” in the actual invitation. I’m thinking maybe $50...

In the retiree’s defense, it is a surprise party and her children are throwing the party. I would be surprised if the person retiring knew.
Than why feel obligated to bring a gift? In thinking that it is normal to bring a gift to a "retirement party", your cousin's children are the odd one's here.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by GoldStar » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:41 am

jebmke wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:35 am
This is one of the best retirement gifts I have received. I have given a couple as well.

https://dayclocks.com/
I gave one of these to my father ~15 years ago when he retired as sort of a joke. I kind of expected he would hang it up in the basement or something. Instead he put it in the living room and said its very useful on keeping track of which day it is when he gets up in the morning! Its still ticking.

OP: $50 seems reasonable to me.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by 02nz » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:46 am

Jane Bryant Quinn's excellent book, How to Make Your Money Last, would be perfect. Worth way more than $50 in Amazon gift cards if used correctly!

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Post by RollTide31457 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:53 am

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Dottie57 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 12:55 pm

jebmke wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:35 am
This is one of the best retirement gifts I have received. I have given a couple as well.

https://dayclocks.com/
I like this.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by PVW » Fri Jan 11, 2019 12:55 pm

Gift cards don't feel right for a retirement gift. I'd probably just give an amount that was insignificant to my budget - say $50 or $100. Just enough that it doesn't attract attention or indicate that I feel a gift card is improper.

I think I have only ever given 1 retirement gift. If any gifts are given, they usually come from their employer or someone who wants to show appreciation for their work. And the gift is often symbolic or frivolous. The single gift I gave was to my early career mentor and friend. It was a bottle of decent scotch and I knew he didn't drink (there was a drinking story that I retold when I presented it). It was a symbolic gift that I got to enjoy whenever I visited.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by dbr » Fri Jan 11, 2019 5:09 pm

It isn't appropriate to give retirement gifts. The retiree might give the gift of throwing the bash. As with all events one attends bring a "host gift" of wine, whisk(e)y, or whatever. With close friends any kind of prank would go over well.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by noco-hawkeye » Fri Jan 11, 2019 5:13 pm

When I retire, I hope someone covers health insurance for me.

:D :wink:

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by J295 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 7:43 pm

$50....

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Jags4186 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 10:01 pm

J295 wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 7:43 pm
$50....
Yup! My sister and I went in on a $100 spa finder gift card. Good riddance...

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by nguy44 » Sat Jan 12, 2019 12:24 am

When friends I worked with retire, I give gift cards between $25-$50 to places of their hobbies.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by fru-gal » Sat Jan 12, 2019 12:30 am

dbr wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 5:09 pm
\ With close friends any kind of prank would go over well.
Remind me not to invite you to my retirement party.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Davinci » Sat Jan 12, 2019 12:35 am

A donation to the Human Fund and a coffee mug should do for any retirement!
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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Watty » Sat Jan 12, 2019 7:19 am

Jags4186 wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:21 am
It looks like they are asking for an Amazon gift card as the gift...
When people "ask" for gifts I tend to have a prior commitment and decline the invitation. It just rubs me the wrong way.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Cosmo » Sat Jan 12, 2019 7:30 am

jebmke wrote:
Fri Jan 11, 2019 11:35 am
This is one of the best retirement gifts I have received. I have given a couple as well.

https://dayclocks.com/

We have a winner. Love this idea.

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by 3-20Characters » Sat Jan 12, 2019 7:33 am

Davinci wrote:
Sat Jan 12, 2019 12:35 am
A donation to the Human Fund and a coffee mug should do for any retirement!
Perfect! One of my favorite charities. 😂

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Re: What is an appropriate retirement gift?

Post by Trism » Sat Jan 12, 2019 7:45 am

I would purchase a greeting card with a sincere pre-printed message and add a hand-written note inside. What's printed/written on/in the card would be based on how well I knew the person.

If we were relatively close I would also do something completely separate from the group, like take her out for lunch or dinner and choose place that she would consider a splurge.

Asking for something, much less something of monetary value, is extremely tacky.

... but I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that people were badgering her for ideas, so she relented and suggested something that would be easy for her co-workers to accommodate. She might really want a Shetland pony.

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