LiterallyIronic wrote: ↑
Fri Oct 12, 2018 10:28 am
truenorth418 wrote: ↑
Fri Oct 12, 2018 3:12 am
The jaded person is the one that closes their eyes to the financial implications of a potential divorce. A divorce can be financially devastating, often for decades after the marriage ended. Divorce is very common today - the divorce rate is still almost 50% of marriages. Why not acknowledge and address the risks of something which is so common and often financially devastating?
If you're going into
the marriage hiring private investigators, multiple attorneys, and an accountant, then I would say you obviously don't trust the person you're marrying and therefore shouldn't marry them (yet). I'm not saying a marriage can't go south, but if you don't trust them at the start, why are you even starting?
The rate of getting married in the first place is at an all time low in the US and practically all developed countries. (In many non-developed countries, in Latin America, for example, the marriage rate is even lower than in the US)
People, especially men, have come to realize that the marriage contract carries a big risk and are saying "no thanks".
Every wedding I have been to the couple makes a vow to each other, in front of their families, their friends, and God, to stay together for the rest of their lives, in sickness and health, richer or poorer, etc. So I agree, most people take this vow seriously, at the time, and truly believe their love will last the rest of their lives. But we all know that divorce is very common. Divorce is not an anomaly, it is very common and normal.
Therefore, it makes sense to build protections into the marriage. It is a legal contract, and as there is a reasonable likelihood it will end in a divorce, the partners should fully understand the legal and financial implications going in. Maybe if everyone did the research, fewer people would pursue legal marriage in the first place.
But if people choose to sign the papers anyway, they should consider a legally binding pre-nuptial agreement, just in case they eventually get divorced, as many, many couples do.