Yay, Team RW73!!! Woo-hoo!!
Seriously, OP, you will look back on this a year from now and - other than marrying your very patient and lovely wife - view it as the best decision you've ever made. Check that. Actually, you will probably look back a year from now and beat yourself up for not having made it sooner, lol. My $.02: Be kind to yourself. At each point over the past 25, and esp. past ~4(?), years since taking on this role, at each point you were just doing what you believed you needed to do to best support your family. There is
NO shame in that!
FWIW, a few reactions/responses to your post:
RW73 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 17, 2018 11:01 pmIn over 100 replies, I didn't see any "stick it out" comments which was eye-opening for me since when I have the "leave" discussion with (a few trusted) colleagues at work, most would not fathom leaving.....part "Kool Aid" I guess, part they don't have the assets I am blessed with (incidentally - virtually no one at my office would expect I have $10M).
On the Kool Aid piece, I was on both sides of such conversations at various times. When I was still lovin' it, I couldn't fathom why anyone would ever want to leave. I didn't express this to anyone who'd decided to leave, of course; I simply expressed my gratitude to them for having had the opportunity to work with them, whether superior/peer/subordinate. Once I had hit the wall and decided to leave, I couldn't believe how many people were asking me how on Earth I'd fill my newfound free time. Again, I felt no need to preach. I simply said Hmm, not sure but I'm sure I'll figure it out....
Everyone learns at their own pace - self included, of course!
RW73 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 17, 2018 11:01 pmWe (family) are all on board to leave/resign. "Methodical and Graceful" has evolved to "Resolute and unashamed".
Even better!
RW73 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 17, 2018 11:01 pmI did not mention, but I do have about a half-dozen colleagues that resigned over the past several years (some from the group I am in, others not). I am setting up time with them to get particulars for all the various aspects of their departures. One aspect I have not been able to get good information on (wouldn't change my mind) is vague language around restricted stock clawback if it matured recently....I can call and get the official policy, but if I ask for it, that request will be passed on to my senior management, quickly. So I'll just get that info from my colleagues. It's possible I need to pay part/all of that back.
Very smart strategy, OP, for all the reasons you suggest. Either way, I'm sure you'll adapt accordingly. I can't imagine that this would be a show-stopper financially.
RW73 wrote: ↑Mon Sep 17, 2018 11:01 pmIn my remaining weeks, I also want to write up some documents for my colleagues that I will give them on the day I give notice. They will understand my drivers for leaving, but it will also cause them extra work until they replace me....and since I care for these people, I want to document some things to ease their burden.
I did the same, and they did appreciate it. In return, they also felt the need to keep me informed about various internal politics after my departure. Be aware that it's often the case that higher-ups see any employee departure as an opportunity to "point to the empty seat" should anything go wrong in future, i.e.
"Oh! Well that was RW73's decision/responsibility....", often things that you had NO involvement in. Should this happen, thank your colleagues but ignore it all. You're free, and they're not.
BTW, also be prepared to hear about how they replaced you not with 1 person, but with 2-4 people.....
Honestly, I wish you and your family all the best, OP, and I am so happy for y'all. To Mortfree's point, please DO update when appropriate!
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