Perhaps I’m oblivious, blinded by my good fortune. With very rare exceptions, though, I think that most posts on BH are welcoming and not intimidating. It is my sense that the more affluent BHs got there by hard work and LBYM; I don’t think we’re full of 3rd generation money. So, most affluent BHs at one time had very little, and they remember, mostly.sawhorse wrote: ↑Sun Sep 24, 2017 4:32 amI wonder how many lower socioeconomic class lurkers there are who are curious and would benefit from participating, but they are ashamed and/or intimidated.
How can we as board members foster a more welcoming and less intimidating environment to turn these lurkers into participants? I expect that once there is a critical mass of lower socioeconomic class participants, more will naturally follow.
That doesn’t mean that it can’t be intimidating to lurkers. I think that once they dip their toes in the forum and post, the quality of advice and the respect with which they’re treated will overcome any intimidation they might have felt. But, we can’t welcome anyone who doesn’t knock on the door.
Fwiw, I stopped posting significant milestones when we reached them, because doing so could be perceived as insensitive and bragging. However, I wanted some advice for myself at one point, and it couldn’t be done without some concrete references to where we were financially, as the question was about AA after having “won the game.” I think that thread got the attention mostly of old hands at BH, but I don’t know if any lurkers were further isolated as a result. However, I think it’s a forum available to assist everyone, even the lucky ones.