2pedals wrote:Anything else would scar the family forever.
Condon's book, Beyond the Grave
, makes this point repeatedly. It's unlikely that a parent deliberately set about to create this tension, but it is the likely outcome when the heirs have different objectives.
So, the threes need to decide (individually or as a group) what they want and what they'll give up to get it
* maintain civil relations with the twos, but give up any significant inheritance
* take it to court, with out much hope of being on speaking terms with the twos, and significant loss of $$ to court and attorney fees.
I don't think there are other options, except perhaps variations on the themes.
Arbitration might be able to talk thru the competing objectives, for less cost than going to an attorney/going to court. Hopefully an arbitrator would be able to keep the focus on both the practicalities of owning the property (taxes, insurance, upkeep, etc) and what your mother would have wanted.
I don't think it's just the loss of house you need to insure against - if there's an injury related to the property, I would guess that any award would be taken from all the property owners, even beyond the value of the property.
So sorry that this is such a difficult time.