TheTimeLord wrote: mak1277 wrote: TheTimeLord wrote: mak1277 wrote:
I find irony when reading these 2 comments together.
I don't play video games at all really. But I'd much rather play video games than be at work!
There's nothing noble about being judgmental about others' hobbies.
Of course there isn't. But I will tell you my experience in life is people who aren't doing the things they dream about, at least to some small extent, while they are working are not going to start just because they do not have to go to work any more. People (myself very much included) have a tendency to idealize the things they fantasize about in their heads and often find the reality to be quite different. I see no positive outcome for individuals reinforcing to themselves that they hate work day after day when they are very likely going to have to go to work for another 10, 20 or 30 years. Why on earth do you want to make yourself miserable for 30 years by concentrating on what you cannot have? If you have a passion that makes you happy, pursue it the best you can during your work years, flame the fire, be that guy who leaves work on Friday fired up to do that thing and is interesting to talk to and returns to work on Monday recharged and looking forward to his next opportunity to pursue his passion. Those people are fun and they make work fun, while people may commiserate with the miserable they don't benefit from being associated with them.
I am that guy...I have a number of hobbies that I pursue in my free time. I certainly wish I had more free time to pursue them, though, and wasn't stuck doing what I love only on the weekends.
You seem to be judging his choice of playing video games...why? Just because it doesn't appeal to you doesn't mean it's not a valid pursuit.
His wife seems to be judging it. But yes, I find it ironic to talk about how quickly life passes you by then say all you want to do when you get home is drink beer and play video games, especially if you are married. Now, if he would like to declare video games are his passion in life, great, guessing that is not the actual case just his form of vegging in front of a TV. As he correctly pointed out life goes very fast, so my point is does he really want to use his available free time playing video games or are there greater passions in his life? I love to veg as much as the next guy, watch TV shows and movies I have seen before and find it relaxing but when I objectively look at what I am doing I don't find it to be the way I want to spend my time on this earth.
I am not seeing the irony.
The first third of my life passed by way too fast. I spent the majority of it in school, the last few working. School for me was not a general American experience - I went to school in an environment where EVERYTHING was focused on getting the top grades (see tiger mom stories). I love video games but I was given 1 hour a week to play, 2 if I did something good (awards, first in my year, etc.) I remember when I was 15, my parents left town and I picked the locks on the cabinet they stored my PS2 and played for three days straight.
I married while in school. My wife is also an overachiever. After I graduated I immediately started working, and it was always to do well and get paid more, yaddie yadda. I don't want that though
. I don't want to make a million bucks and devote my life to my work. Hell, I don't even want to devote 1/3 of my life to work like I am currently doing. All I want is to be able to sit in front of my TV, with no limits, and be able to play my games. And that is why I am working towards financial independence...to be able to do that.
I DO NOT CARE ABOUT GREATER PASSIONS. If it's there and I find it, great I'll pursue it. If it doesn't come, I have better games to play than to waste time to look for it. There are a lot of people like me. Unfortunately in this day and age this lack of "ambition", "purpose" or "mission" gets you nowhere so everyday we have to pretend we [care --admin LadyGeek]
. Good thing I don't have to pretend here
Man it feels good to get that off my chest.