goodenyou wrote:Pride, envy, gluttony, lust, anger, greed, and sloth. They are all destructive.
Reading this thread was interesting. I'm glad that the initial sentiment of people advising OP to ditch her buddy "get better friends," etc. seems to have lost out to cooler and more sensible heads suggesting that a 30 year friendship
might be something worth working at a little.
I quoted goodenyou's post above because I think it might be the most perceptive of the bunch. My guess is that at least 5 of the seven deadly sins are involved here.** Ideally, both OP and her friend would look to themselves and see where they have been less than perfect, and realize that despite their imperfections and their friend's imperfections, friendships are one of the things that makes life worth living. There must be a hell of a lot of good there for it to have carried on for 30 years.
**I'm guessing OP: pride, anger, greed (?), envy (?) [of her friend's easier upbringing]. OP's friend: envy, greed, sloth, anger. If we could get a little lust and gluttony involved we'd have the sept-fecta!
ETA: I don't intend this post as religious. I am not a religious person. But I do believe in the value of looking to oneself. As another posted earlier, when you "inadvertently" "let slip" that you have a ton of money, or have some other admirable trait, often it's little more than bragging and the negative effect it has on another person was exactly what you, consciously or subconsciously, intended.