1. I have asked for a complete breakdown of fees. Just doing that has cost the estate probably 1000 dollars.dekecarver wrote:Ok here goes with all due respect to you and your situation:
Either poop or get off the pot. With the advice that has been given to you from this board based on the info you have provided it sounds to me like you've been given multiple options of which really don't take that much time. You have probably spent more time than it would take to either: call the firm; talk to your cousin; or seek advice from a secondary firm, to rethink the situation, repost information, create more angst for yourself, etc..
I can honestly say I know how this type of situation along with a a very sick spouse can effect your thinking etc..Bottom line is step back, take a breath and seek resolution or forget about it and move on. There is a point where your own indecisiveness can have a negative effect on your mental and physical health.
P.S. After it's all and done over with take your cousin out back behind the woodshed.
2. When I asked for the breakdown I told the Executor that I was not happy with the fees being charged and that my father never would have expected them to be this much. He didn't even respond to it in his reply.
3. The law firm literally has hundreds of partners. To decipher who to call is taking some time. Do you really think I can call and be transferred to the head of this law firm? I don't think people understand the size of this firm. I can't even ever get the Executor on the phone. I guarantee I won't get to speak to anyone of authority. And if I do do people really think they will agree that the Executor has charged too much and gladly give me a discount? I hghly doubt anything of the sort will happen. Lawyers protect each other, especially those in the same firm.
4. I haven't signed anything. By doing this I have delayed the settlement and guaranteed at least $10K more in expenses.
5. I have looked in to talking to a lawyer. There are two or three that I will call once I get the full breakdown of costs.
I have taken the advice given and tried to process it. I am dealing with this the best I can. It seems pretty easy for you to give the advice "poop or get off the pot". Maybe now you'll agree I haven't been sitting on my a$$. I apologize if this comes off as rude but I don't think people understand this is essentially a lost cause. ITs easy to say do this to get the fees reduce or file that complaint but does anyone really think it will work? Lawyers cover themselves well. These people did it exactly correct. They have me by the you know what and they know it.