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I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
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Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
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EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
$1000 wont get much from Tiffany. Suggest Blue Nile or Brilliant Earth, or a local non chain jeweler

Edit: there are some branded metal ring designs at that price point, but if you want gemstones better off somewhere else. All depends what she would want and wear.
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Can tell you from experience that giving rings as non-engagement gifts is a dangerous activity. Maybe a necklace, earrings, or bracelet would do?
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I feel like getting her a non-engagement ring is odd. I'd probably go with a necklace or bracelet instead, but that's just me.

Most of the jewelry i have gotten for my wife has been through Brilliant Earth. She seems happy with it.
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https://www.davidyurman.com/

I’d encourage you to do a bracelet, necklace or earrings. Ring seems like a big leap and could lead to an accidental assumption at the opening of the gift.

FYI. I gave DY bracelet to my girlfriend when we were dating (about 6 months in). We are now married with two kids. Be careful!
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Have you given a non-engagement ring to a gf before? How did it go? I'm genuinely curious.
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BUBear29 wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:31 pm https://www.davidyurman.com/
I was going to post the exact same thing and then I read your post.

OP, avoid a ring for now. Get something else, anything else, but a ring at this stage.
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Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Toe ring might be better and carry fewer implications, in U.S., anyway.
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MotoTrojan wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:28 pm Can tell you from experience that giving rings as non-engagement gifts is a dangerous activity. Maybe a necklace, earrings, or bracelet would do?
OP, this here.

9-10 months is not out of the realm of engagement ring territory for dating in your 30s especially if things are going well or you live together.

Highly recommend anything other than a ring.

My wife loves Kendra Scott, and it's not too pricey. It's pretty popular, I always notice the same necklace I bought my wife on women on tv and in real life.

It's this style:

https://www.kendrascott.com/jewelry/cat ... s#start=15

I'd get her a necklace and earring combo and a nice dinner
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What does she like? What brands are her current rings? Is she trendy or would she prefer something more personal rather than trendy?
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MotoTrojan wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:28 pm Can tell you from experience that giving rings as non-engagement gifts is a dangerous activity. Maybe a necklace, earrings, or bracelet would do?
This.

Give her a bracelet or earrings.
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baxterbones wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:35 pm
MotoTrojan wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:28 pm Can tell you from experience that giving rings as non-engagement gifts is a dangerous activity. Maybe a necklace, earrings, or bracelet would do?
OP, this here.

9-10 months is not out of the realm of engagement ring territory for dating in your 30s especially if things are going well or you live together.

Highly recommend anything other than a ring.

My wife loves Kendra Scott, and it's not too pricey. It's pretty popular, I always notice the same necklace I bought my wife on women on tv and in real life.

It's this style:

https://www.kendrascott.com/jewelry/cat ... s#start=15

I'd get her a necklace and earring combo and a nice dinner
This price range looks solid. If you get her something reasonable and she flips out, I think I would get a new girlfriend.
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Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
If she is a ring person, using different rings as accessories with different clothing, this is a fine idea. But you need to consider the presentation of the ring.

I think it is OK to give her a ring, but present it some way other than a ring box. I'm female. If a boyfriend since the beginning of the year presented me with a ring box, I would be very uncomfortable. It would be awkward as heck.

Unless you two are exactly on the same page, a ring box will cause terror or great hope about to be dashed. Doesn't sound like either of those is what you are trying to do.

Put it on a scarf. Put it on a pretzel. Hang it off a wine bottle. Anything but a ring box.

Good luck!
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Vintage jewelry stores have unique and beautiful art objects. Necklaces, bracelets, brooches, etc. all very one of a kind. You could make a great statement without buying a ring.
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Another no vote on the ring.

The unintended inference may well be a thing but additionally I'm personally not a fan of getting anything expensive for a partner that isn't discussed prior.
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Black Hills Gold. Always in style. At least in the 80s it was. :confused
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EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
What rings are $1500 at Tiffany’s?
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My wife and I shopped for her rings together. It's a more fun shopping together. She wanted to make sure I was happy with what she liked. It works out better that way, otherwise you'll probably get her something she's not 100% happy with but pretends she is.
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runner540 wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:27 pm$1000 won't get much from Tiffany. Suggest Blue Nile or Brilliant Earth, or a local non chain jeweler
runner540:

Your post reminds me of a similar time shortly after being drafted for WWII in 1941. I wanted to buy my girlfriend a ring. I knew that an emerald represented her birthday. I was in New York and looking in the store windows in Times-Square for green emerald rings. There were lots of them at a low price I could afford.

I had heard about TIffany so I went to 5th avenue and visited their store. I asked the well-dressed salesman to see their emerald rings. I was in my new Army uniform. The salesman looked at me and asked how much I could afford to pay? I remember saying, "up to $50."

Instead of laughing,* the salesman told me that "real" emeralds (not glass) are much more than $50. He suggest a small opal ring which I bought and gave to Barbara (she married another guy).

* I will never forget his kindness.

Best wishes.
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Grt2bOutdoors wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:11 pm
EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
What rings are $1500 at Tiffany’s?
There are 96 options in the OP's price range. Some subset of that is wedding bands, but there are a lot of options.
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Perhaps surprisingly, Costco.com has some very nice jewelry. There is a wide range of prices up to very expensive.
Here are some examples https://www.costco.com/gold-bracelets.html
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Don’t do it.

And don’t do the engagement ring until you’re ready to start planning the wedding.
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If you and her are both Apple users and don’t have the Apple Watch, how about “His and Hers Apple Watch”?
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I think necklace or earrings are less likely to put her down the other thought track.

IMHO, rings have the potential for too much backlash as no good deed goes unpunished. As many women does, she either overthinks it and goes head over heels for you or overthinks it and thinks you're rushing things.
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I dont think brand is very important to the average person when it comes to jewlery. Style is most important and you know your GF better than us. My wife liked her large 18 carat emerald cut amethyst ring until a tweaker robbed our house. Something like that is clearly a fashion ring and cant be confused for an engagement ring.

$1500 can also buy a nice pearl strand which is timeless.
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Taylor Larimore wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:13 pm
runner540 wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:27 pm$1000 won't get much from Tiffany. Suggest Blue Nile or Brilliant Earth, or a local non chain jeweler
runner540:

Your post reminds me of a similar time shortly after being drafted for WWII in 1941. I wanted to buy my girlfriend a ring. I knew that an emerald represented her birthday. I was in New York and looking in the store windows in Times-Square for green emerald rings. There were lots of them at a low price I could afford.

I had heard about TIffany so I went to 5th avenue and visited their store. I asked the well-dressed salesman to see their emerald rings. I was in my new Army uniform. The salesman looked at me and asked how much I could afford to pay? I remember saying, "up to $50."

Instead of laughing,* the salesman told me that "real" emeralds (not glass) are much more than $50. He suggest a small opal ring which I bought and gave to Barbara (she married another guy).

* I will never forget his kindness.

Best wishes.
Taylor
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Taylor, what a great story. Thank you for fighting fascism and for our country in WWII.
I’m thrilled I got a reply from the great Taylor Larimore. I’m a woman who likes to choose my own jewelry but have never been willing to pay for the Tiffany brand. I hope Barbara appreciated it!
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I guess this depends on income but I couldn’t imagine giving a gift like that. Seems to set expectations pretty high for holidays, etc. instead I try to treat the person nicely, have a good meal, etc. obviously I live a different lifestyle.
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I would go for a necklace and you won't have to worry about the size. Story: When I was dating my former husband he bought me a ring around the two year mark. He kept insisting that it was just a ring and not an engagement ring. We were married six months later. At the twenty year mark he bought me a fabulous ring insisting it was the "engagement ring" that he never bought for me.

Be very careful :shock:
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If you are looking to surprise her, then yeah, tread carefully with a ring if you haven't already broached the subject of getting engaged and set clear expectations around that, otherwise any ring could trigger conversations you may not be ready to have.

If you aren't looking for a surprise and instead want to have the fun of taking her out shopping for jewelry, then give her a budget and let her pick out whatever she wants, ring, necklace, tongue piercing, chainmail arm band, whatever.

Shopping together can be very fun and help you learn her taste. Plus spending a significant amount together can be a bonding experience that can also open the door to more financial discussions in the future as well.

It all depends on what kind of experience you are looking to create.
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Grt2bOutdoors wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:11 pm
EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
What rings are $1500 at Tiffany’s?
250 of them are $1,500 or less --- https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/shop/ri ... ce-0-1500/
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EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
Yeah I checked the websites mentioned here... Tiffanies is more expensive but way more stylish. A lot of options to consider <$2000 - I feel ok to bump the budget based on what I saw
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Tiffany's - yes
ring - no way
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A necklace from Blue Nile would be nice. If she balks that it's not from Tiffanys, then that's a signal...
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Absolutely bad idea on a ring. I think there is only downside for you in purchasing any kind of ring except engagement ring when the time is right. Maybe necklace or earrings but not too extravagant. You will have plenty of time for fancy expensive gifts later is this person is a match for a long term relationship.
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Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:15 pm
EnjoyIt wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:24 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Can’t go wrong with overpaying for anything from tiffanies.
Yeah I checked the websites mentioned here... Tiffanies is more expensive but way more stylish. A lot of options to consider <$2000 - I feel ok to bump the budget based on what I saw
You give her that little blue bag and I think she’ll be happy but save the “ring” for another time. Get an Elsa Perretti silver necklace. Stylish and no miscommunication of intentions.

https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/shop/ne ... ng-silver/

Tasteful yet not going to break the bank. Save the coin for the “ring” down the road.
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Cut your price target by a third and then go to Costco.
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Rings are for some things, even the lst half glance at a "ring" has a certain anticipation.

Opal pendant necklace?

Price and brand name (status) matters not. At this stage, it's the thought.
Include a dozen of favorite flowers and a really corny or sappy card.

Don't go overboard. Scares away the fish. :shock:
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Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
Idea... Ask your gf to recommend one of her friends to help you shop for a gift. As someone else mentioned, maybe tell her "Don't worry - it's not an engagement ring..."

Then take that friend to the "Jewelry Mart." Most big cities. Two of the Jewelry Marts I've been to were predominantly filled with shops run by people of Armenian Jewish descent; so there's sort of a cultural environment.

The ones I've been to were reputable and had quality merchandise and willing to negotiate.

https://sfgcjm.com/

https://jewelerscenter.com/jewelers/

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whodidntante wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:28 pm Cut your price target by a third and then go to Costco.
I'd say do even better with some CZ. Some pieces look just as nice as diamond for 10% the cost.
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bracelet is a good way to go at this point in your relationship.

something like this:

https://www.bluenile.com/sterling-silve ... acelet_723
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whodidntante wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:28 pm Cut your price target by a third and then go to Costco.
Don't underestimate what you can find at Costco. https://www.costco.com/round-brilliant- ... 92371.html
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retiredjg wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:00 pm
Pomegranate wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 3:22 pm I started to date a new girlfriend (mid 30s) in the beginning of the year. Looking to buy her a nice looking ring (it's not for engagement/wedding) but I have 0 clue what brands are popular now. Do people shop online for such stuff nowadays? Budget wise $1000-1500 I guess :annoyed
If she is a ring person, using different rings as accessories with different clothing, this is a fine idea. But you need to consider the presentation of the ring.

I think it is OK to give her a ring, but present it some way other than a ring box. I'm female. If a boyfriend since the beginning of the year presented me with a ring box, I would be very uncomfortable. It would be awkward as heck.

Unless you two are exactly on the same page, a ring box will cause terror or great hope about to be dashed. Doesn't sound like either of those is what you are trying to do.

Put it on a scarf. Put it on a pretzel. Hang it off a wine bottle. Anything but a ring box.

Good luck!
I don't think that's going to help. Don't get a ring. Also, I may be old fashioned, but a gift of jewelry to a woman you're not engaged or married to is not quite the thing. Makes her look like a gold digger or no better than she should be.
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Female here, and one who does happen to enjoy jewelry.
(But I prefer something that *I* like, which is not necessarily what is "trendy", etc.)

Do you have any idea what style of jewelry she likes?

How about shopping together, as suggested above, for a bracelet or necklace.
Or perhaps go in advance to a jeweler (Tiffany is probably extra nice for most, but not necesarily!), and mention the price range and *maximum* (or it can creeeeep up), or have a few choices waiting.

And NO NO NO, do not get her a ring at this stage.
If she even vaguely suspects it *might* be an engagement ring when she realizes it is a ring, she will probably either be seriously annoyed or totally disappointed shortly. And worse, IF she were to mumble little nothings before opening it, assuming it is an engagement ring, that type of mortification will be hard to overcome.

If not Tiffany, then a David Yurman bracelet would be nice as there are many different looks. Again, go shopping together, have fun, and tell a sales person in advance the range and limit.
You'll be able to get fancy in at least one way (solid gold or a couple of larger semi-precious stones, and she may have a favorite color, or tiny diamonds if that's her preference).

Both Tiffany and David Yurman assume that "name" means something to her. I don't care if this is "Bogleheads". Sometimes the name of something or a very special, characteristic look, matters. That is okay.
(What is *not* okay is if someone gets upset that "not enough is being spent". That is totally different. If someone prefers a tiny diamond to a huge CZ, that's a valid choice for *that* person!)

Did I mentiong, "no ring"?
Not now.

Make sure this is a *good* thing, and doesn't become terribly awkward (or worse).
Good luck!

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I am a fan of these:

https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/bracele ... -GRP03577/


https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/bracele ... -GRP01430/

Agree with everyone here. No ring!


These two bracelets are in a very good price range. $175-375. Spend the rest on a mini-trip, good food.
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What's the occasion, if you don't mind revealing? Seems like you might be setting the bar too high too soon for yourself :P.
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Re: Ring for a new girlfriend

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retiredjg wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 4:00 pm ...Unless you two are exactly on the same page, a ring box will cause terror or great hope about to be dashed. Doesn't sound like either of those is what you are trying to do...
I gave a ring to DW #1 when we were dating, and she acted like she thought I was proposing. (That came later.) After I explained it was only a present she calmed down, but she still really liked it anyway.
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Re: Ring for a new girlfriend

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boogiehead wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 7:36 pm What's the occasion, if you don't mind revealing? Seems like you might be setting the bar too high too soon for yourself :P.
Agreed. Setting yourself up for failure unless this is a shallow relationship (nothing against some transactional lovin’).
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Re: Ring for a new girlfriend

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Sandtrap wrote: Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:35 pm Don't go overboard. Scares away the fish.
+1

And it sort of creates the expectation that she will spend a similar amount on a gift for you.

If this early planning for something like Christmas then she may have already bought you a much less expensive gift for you and that could also be more than a little awkward.

If this is for a Christmas gift then you might consider talking with her about Christmas gifts and maybe set an approximate dollar amount. Being able to talk about things like this is a type of intimacy that might help the relationship develop.
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