LesBleus** wrote: ↑
Wed Jun 26, 2019 10:21 am
Ron Ronnerson wrote: ↑
Thu Jun 20, 2019 10:19 pm
This question is really about what is of importance to you and your wife. For me, this is what matters: my family, a work schedule that allows for lots of time off, and nice weather. I (nor my wife) really care about a mansion-sized home, fancy cars, and lots of money with jewels mixed in. So, we've built our life around those things that we do care about. You and your wife should probably do some soul-searching and then sit down together and talk about your values and priorities. Your question isn’t just about where to live but what you want your life to look like. That’s a question which isn’t easy for others to answer. Personally, I’d pick Orange County if I were you because family is very important to me and I like the nice weather. The thing is, I’m NOT you and can’t possibly make such a decision for someone who might have very different preferences. I honestly wish I could be more helpful but, really, it's such a personal decision. It's time to have some deep conversations with your spouse. Hopefully, you can find a solution which works for you both.
I really like this Ron.
Wife and I moved from South OC 4 years ago to Houston, TX. Wife wanted to open a restaurant and we wanted to buy a nice house. Now that the restaurant is sold and we experienced what it is to have a nice big house, we are planning to move back to OC. Like OP we have a 2 months old and a 3 years old and I want to be able to take my kids to the playground any time and not worry about the humidity or the heat or unpredictable rain. I'll be honest as father I am VERY concerned about money and wife and I have and continue to openly discuss our wants and needs. We both realized that our lifestyle and creating memories is worth more than owing a big house. I think the key here is to truly communicate with your wife make sure the entire family is onboard with the moving decision.
Thanks, LesBleus. I think the importance of having relatives nearby can vary greatly depending on family dynamics. However, sometimes, it can be a very big positive. In our case, our daycare costs were lower because we were able to drop off the kiddo at grandma’s a couple of days a week. My sister and her family live next door to us. They have three kids, including two who are very close in age to our daughter (age 5). She gets to play with her cousins daily, a great thing for an only-child. If we run out of milk or I need help moving a piece of furniture, I can go next door and ask my brother-in-law for help (a stay-at-home dad). We’re celebrating our anniversary this week and going into San Francisco for a couple of days to watch a play and have some nice meals. The kid will be with the in-laws during that time. My mother is getting older and lives on her own. She is only five minutes away and it’s nice to know she gets to see her kids and grandkids often.
We have not only saved money by having family nearby, but also have a support network and that can be huge. Most importantly, we get to spend time together and make memories. The kid has so much love in her life that, well, it's just awesome. However, everyone’s family is different. In some cases, moving far away might even be a smart move. So, the OP should discuss things with the spouse and see what they want their life to look like. If one spouse is unhappy, that doesn’t bode well so these conversations really couldn't be any more important.
On a side-note, the California weather is amazing as well. Personally, I'd rather have that than a bigger house. I know not everyone has that same preference, though, and that's just fine.