Life in retirement - what did you do today?

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by aspirit » Tue Jun 12, 2018 7:02 pm

Sheepdog wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:31 am
RadAudit wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 3:24 pm
CULater wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 3:08 pm
Very interesting to hear what folks are doing. Wonder what age most of you are. I have the the feeling that the 60s are pretty good with activities and maybe early 70s. How many are still on the move older than that? Seems like the mid-70s are the watershed and things slow down a lot then.
sheepdog is 85.
Thanks for that. Taylor Larimore is my idol....in his 90s and still sailboat racing and all that.
I think I am as active is I was at 60 except that foreign travel has ceased as of 3 years ago. We ceased not because of age, but we decided to stay in country in the future by auto. Plane travel has become not enjoyable anymore (security, seating, boarding and all that. I will be traveling by air to PA in October though.) We have never considered age to be a deterrent for anything. Really, we don't think "We are too old." We just do it.
Except for threads like this which brings my age to mind I never consider my age when I want to do something, nor does my wife. Why should anyone? Don't even think that you will be a lesser person in your 80s or beyond. Be positive. It's up to you.
Not wanting to derail this thread, or spook sheepdog w/a PM. However if your reading this thread again you might consider some of the uber like air travel options available today.
If you've 4-6 people traveling renting your own rent-a-plane w/pilot costs close to public air travel costs. Example::https://www.marketwatch.com/story/how-t ... 2014-07-01
Time & tides wait for no one. A man has to know his limitations.

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Post by 2015 » Tue Jun 12, 2018 7:55 pm

VictoriaF wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 9:33 pm
2015 wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 6:45 pm
Preparing to return tomorrow to the highly extracting morass that is elder and hospice care which has been incessant since January. It would be nice to say I was preparing for my next scheduled travel adventure this month but all adventures for this year have evaporated in light of this higher priority and commitment.
Your elder is fortunate to have you.

This discussion is Retirement 101 for those who are curious or fearing it. We have good days and bad days and uneventful days. We go on adventures and we take care of our elders. We face more death than when we were younger, but we also have more wisdom to weave its horror and lessons into our lives and continue following our personal missions.

Be well,

Victoria
Thank you! So nice to know when times are at their most challenging Victoria on the BH Forum has your back.

On the way to my elder care odyssey, I drove through a desert in 115 degree heat, with mountains rising through the distant haze appearing almost otherworldly. It was enchanting for as long as it lasted (a while), and those are the kinds of surprises I've found life in retirement affords, regardless of circumstances.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Toons » Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:03 pm

CULater wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 6:13 pm
This part had me concerned:
Spouse and I went to Walmart ,as soon as we hit pickup area attendant
Be careful out there. :P
Hahahah,,Excellent bravo :sharebeer
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Post by Cruise » Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:26 pm

Wake up and make soy latte. Eat cereal.
Consume above while reading/watching local, national,local and sports news.
Escort wife to her car and wish her “Have a great day at work!”
Watch fan guy replace one fan and repair another.
Vacuum up the mess.
Go to fan shop and and return fans decided not to use.
Weightlifting workout.
Eat late lunch of fruit bowl.
Pick up mail al at post office box.
Go to PT to work on my knee.
Mobile check deposit via Fidelity app.
Make calls to doctor’ office, dentist’s office, medical equipment company, insurance company.
Vacuum part of house.
Ruminate about issue with neighbor
Participate in entertaining over dinner wife’s visiting colleague.
Gas up wife’s car and check her tires.
Watch “Curb your Enthusiasm.”

Tomorrow, I’ll be attending a class at the university.
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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Sandtrap » Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:31 pm

midareff wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:38 am
I was soooo busy yesterday I never had a chance to catch up on all the "doin' nothing" I was supposed to do. That is really going to throw a curve into today's activities as I have both today's and yesterday's "doin' nothing" to catch up on, and I still have to start packing for our trip..
Outstanding!!!!!

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by TheNightsToCome » Tue Jun 12, 2018 11:03 pm

CULater wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 8:30 pm
So, break it out for me. What was your happiness quotient for the following ages?

20 - 35
35 - 50
50 - 65
65 - 80
80 +

I'd have to say that mine was highest for the first bracket by far and has declined for each bracket since. Funny, because in the younger years there is struggle, uncertainty, stress, financial challenge, sacrifice, etc. In the later years there is less of all that plus we finally have more time to do stuff we didn't have the time or opportunity to do when we were younger, and yet I (we) don't get happier, we get less and less happy.
Apparently, we become less happy until 50-ish, but then happier and happier as life goes on: https://www.economist.com/node/17722567

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Post by Lynette » Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:44 am

Toons wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 6:02 pm
* Spanish lessons.
* Another spanish lesson while drinking coffee.
* Helped my friend in Mexico City with some new english words...via Tandem application
* Spoke with another friend in Portugal who is learning English also.
* Intensive spanish lesson,,
* More spanish with my friend in Mexico City,,,he drives a van,,,sends me a pic of current heavy rain and
flooding.
* More spanish lessons after that, in my man cave (the outside shed),,,
Spanish lessons.....
Wow - really impressive! If you don't mind me asking:

1. What software are you using for these discussions with your buddies in Mexico City and Portugal.

2. What other tools/software/books are you using to learn Spanish?

3. Did you take Spanish or any other language in school/college?

4. Do you have many Spanish-speaking people in your area?

I'm trying to learn Spanish through community colleges - when they offer the classes. I know I can learn this stage of Spanish on my own as I have lots of background in learning languages. But at the moment I'm getting distracted by gardening. I've discovered I really enjoy watching stuff grow, gets too big, move it .. I did not know I would enjoy gardening so much.

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Post by Toons » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:44 am

Lynette wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:44 am
Toons wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 6:02 pm
* Spanish lessons.
* Another spanish lesson while drinking coffee.
* Helped my friend in Mexico City with some new english words...via Tandem application
* Spoke with another friend in Portugal who is learning English also.
* Intensive spanish lesson,,
* More spanish with my friend in Mexico City,,,he drives a van,,,sends me a pic of current heavy rain and
flooding.
* More spanish lessons after that, in my man cave (the outside shed),,,
Spanish lessons.....
Wow - really impressive! If you don't mind me asking:

1. What software are you using for these discussions with your buddies in Mexico City and Portugal.

2. What other tools/software/books are you using to learn Spanish?

3. Did you take Spanish or any other language in school/college?

4. Do you have many Spanish-speaking people in your area?

I'm trying to learn Spanish through community colleges - when they offer the classes. I know I can learn this stage of Spanish on my own as I have lots of background in learning languages. But at the moment I'm getting distracted by gardening. I've discovered I really enjoy watching stuff grow, gets too big, move it .. I did not know I would enjoy gardening so much.
1.Tandem Application to communicate
2.Duolingo is a powerful learning app that is free.I watch Netflix movies ,tv shows in spanish,,,countless instructional youtube videos to help me learn spanish lessons.Professor jason is excellent.Microsoft translator and or Google translator are excellent apps for the smart phone.

3. I never took Spanish in either high school or college.
4. I am not surrounded by Spanish speaking people where I live,but when I do have the opportunity to meet some one who speaks Spanish I try to initiate a conversation...They are usually surprised that I am teaching myself a foreign language at the tender age of 67. :happy
5.Learning a foreign language has been on my bucket list for quite a few years and I am in the process of one day putting a check mark beside it......

Comienza hoy con duolingo una dia a vez,y practica todos los dias una leccion a la vez.
Buena Suerte :happy :happy

https://www.duolingo.com/

https://play.google.com/store/apps/deta ... m&hl=en_US
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Post by Lynette » Wed Jun 13, 2018 8:02 am

Thanks Toons! I will look into the Tandem app - looks really interesting and likely what I need. If I remember correctly, it was Nisiprius who mentioned that he uses italki.

:wink: Besides the books that community college uses I like the series called "Practice makes perfect". They have all kinds of books at all kinds of levels and they are inexpensive through Amazon. At the moment I am reading one called "Spanish reading and comprehension". It is exciting to be able to read extracts from some of the classics such as those from Miguel de Cervantes - even if it is with heavy notes and vocabulary. I love the story of Don Quixote. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_Quixote even though I read it in translation. As I was trained as a Latin teacher, I tend to place too much emphasis on correct grammar. One of these days I'll get around to speaking!

Thanks,

Lynette

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by chevca » Wed Jun 13, 2018 11:07 am

mak1277 wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:32 am
chevca wrote:
Tue Jun 12, 2018 9:20 am
GCD wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 4:08 pm
chevca wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 1:25 pm
Is this place turning into Facebook now? What is a consumer issue, finance, or investing related about this?
Nothing really. But it is a retirement issue. A lot of BHs seem to struggle with the concept of filling their previous working hours with their own creative agenda. A thread like this may give them some practical examples of how to fill their day. Or it may reinforce their idea that people in retirement fill their day doing boring things. Kind of a reality check for what really takes place in retirement for those who view making the switch with trepidation.

I predict the thread will run for a few more pages until it gets repetitive. Then it will get closed for having "run its course."
And, then we can start a "what did you have for dinner" thread, or start posting where we are on the weekends or vacations.....

It's obviously still going since the thread is open, but I'm disappointed it is.
Why not just ignore it instead of being disappointed?
I mostly do ignore it. But, some folks can't ignore my posts and it keeps showing up in my notifications that someone quoted me, so.... :wink:

I just think it sets a bad precedent. What's next, "the weekend's coming, what should I do"? We've had folks post in this section about a bee in their house, what to do. IMO, this section of the forum is getting to be a free for all... almost. Not really, but heading that direction.

Might as well make another section for off topic stuff like retirement days, bees, golf scores, and folks scratching themselves. :happy

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Post by wrongfunds » Wed Jun 13, 2018 12:26 pm

But, some folks can't ignore my posts and it keeps showing up in my notifications that someone quoted me, so...
that happened because you actually made an entry here! By the way, to save you the trouble of getting extra notification, I did NOT quote you by the name; see I was so nice :-)

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Post by mak1277 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 12:46 pm

chevca wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 11:07 am
Might as well make another section for off topic stuff like retirement days, bees, golf scores, and folks scratching themselves. :happy
I would totally be in favor of an unmoderated section of the forum. I might even break my rule against donating to websites if that helped the cause.

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wrongfunds wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 12:26 pm
But, some folks can't ignore my posts and it keeps showing up in my notifications that someone quoted me, so...
that happened because you actually made an entry here! By the way, to save you the trouble of getting extra notification, I did NOT quote you by the name; see I was so nice :-)
I presently have 381 of those notifications, which I continue to ignore...
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Post by wrongfunds » Wed Jun 13, 2018 1:22 pm

I presently have 381 of those notifications, which I continue to ignore...
Really? IMHO, that is a perfect case of hit-and-run posting. If you are NOT interested in a topic, especially, if your DO NOT want any replies to your own reply, why bother putting it there in the first place?

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Post by Sheepdog » Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:48 pm

Nicolas wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:21 pm

I've read where some car rental agencies won't let you rent a car if age 70 or above, is that true? That would be an age-related deterrent if true. I want to continue renting cars at that age.
I have never read of a problem in auto rental in the U.S., but in some countries I read that there may be a problem.
I had no problem in 2015 in Ft. Lauderdale (heading for a Western Caribbean cruise) or in Jacksonville while attending my high school's 65th reunion luncheon in 2016. (Yes, there were a good number of attendees at our 83 year age. They did cut out evening reunions with the last being our 60th in 2011).. I am glad you brought this up....life doesn't necessarily end in the 80s, see?
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Post by Sandtrap » Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:01 pm

I think my body has been aging in "dog years" after 60. :shock:

Added a couple of pipe rails to the barn stalls per DW's request.
Put my spine on "ice" after that.
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Post by cfs » Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:02 pm

I like this conversation, let's keep it going, and thanks everyone for your contribution. Good start of the day, early morning LUng Distance Walk. Reached the top of my favorite hill where I have a nice view of the broad open ocean, stopped, and said a prayer for peace on the Korean Peninsula. On the way down the trail at the distance I saw another walker and caught up with her (our first encounter on the trail), walked with her for a couple of miles at her pace. She made a turn and went her way, I continued on my way. Met with another walker (this time an old friend, a very strong walker) and continued my walk with her. Had a good conversation with both walkers, not a lonely workout today for a change, thanks heavens. One thing I noticed today was the change of weather, by the time I arrived at my front door it was sunny and warm. It is beginning to feel like summer here. Retirement is great, life is wonderful, gracias por leer ~cfs~
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Post by The Wizard » Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:59 pm

wrongfunds wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 1:22 pm
I presently have 381 of those notifications, which I continue to ignore...
Really? IMHO, that is a perfect case of hit-and-run posting. If you are NOT interested in a topic, especially, if your DO NOT want any replies to your own reply, why bother putting it there in the first place?
Umm, you might want to check for when the last time I logged off the forum was, 2011 or thereabouts...
:P
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Post by jdb » Wed Jun 13, 2018 4:25 pm

cfs wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 3:02 pm
I like this conversation, let's keep it going, and thanks everyone for your contribution.
~cfs~
Agree. As someone who has just fully retired
this year find it fascinating to get a glimpse into 24 hours in life of other retirees, many of whom have more experience in this life passage than me. Thanks.

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Post by Alice Ranch » Wed Jun 13, 2018 4:47 pm

Had breakfast and coffee on our front deck as the sun rose.

Drove to the barn, readied my (leased) horse and rode the John Muir land trust trails for a couple hours with a friend, retired from teaching. Me - from computer programming.

Talked about books - water wars Cadillac Desert, demise of Ottoman empire A Peace to End all Peace. Art - she is a fine artist; music - piano and me. Don't put off any of these pursuits and you will surprise yourself.

Tennis and traditional Hawaiian dance tmro, golf the two days after.

Not wrapped up in "news." Think often of my parents now passed, how tough life was for them yet they gave us everything and more. Think a lot about faith after almost a lifetime of strident secularism.

Do what you can, help where you can.

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Post by GoldenFinch » Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:11 pm

HongKonger wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 2:30 pm
Retired 5 years now mid 40s:
Got up and fed all my 40-odd rescue cats then had breakfast.
Loaded the cement mixer up and then the electricity went off so I walked to the village square for some shopping.
Came home and decided to tidy up my little vineyard so spent 2 hours at that.
A friend came by around lunchtime so we cracked open a bottle of wine she had brought in exchange for veggies from the garden. She left, I collected fruit from my trees before another friend swung by to barter my fruit for his chickens eggs.
Kitty dinner time ...then I watched the news for an hour, decided on dinner, and sat in the garden listening to the evening birdsong.
Dinner is cooking and I am on here.
Hopefully I can get back to cement making in the morning ..but days like today are a pleasure. I really love my life.
Your life is very interesting! A vineyard, cat farm, fruit orchard and cement business. I like it!

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Post by Lynette » Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:17 pm

Sheepdog wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:48 pm
Nicolas wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 2:21 pm

I've read where some car rental agencies won't let you rent a car if age 70 or above, is that true? That would be an age-related deterrent if true. I want to continue renting cars at that age.
I have never read of a problem in auto rental in the U.S., but in some countries I read that there may be a problem.
I had no problem in 2015 in Ft. Lauderdale (heading for a Western Caribbean cruise) or in Jacksonville while attending my high school's 65th reunion luncheon in 2016. (Yes, there were a good number of attendees at our 83 year age. They did cut out evening reunions with the last being our 60th in 2011).. I am glad you brought this up....life doesn't necessarily end in the 80s, see?
Jim
John McCain's mother and twin sister traveled the world together in their nineties. At 95, Ms McCain tried to rent a car. The rental agency would not rent her one so she bought one.

https://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/14/trav ... sters.html

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Post by dknightd » Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:19 pm

I want to retire!

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Post by PoultryMan » Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm

Early 50’s here and don’t want to derail a harmless thread, but I have some random thoughts on these posts. Reading these I have encountered all these emotions:

**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
** I wonder how many of these people worry about spending too much each day so they don’t run out of money
**Envious of some of the people who seem to care very little about what their retirement “appears” to outsiders like me (maybe that’s the independence part of FIRE)

Strange.....

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Post by dknightd » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:05 pm

PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
Early 50’s here and don’t want to derail a harmless thread, but I have some random thoughts on these posts. Reading these I have encountered all these emotions:

**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
** I wonder how many of these people worry about spending too much each day so they don’t run out of money
**Envious of some of the people who seem to care very little about what their retirement “appears” to outsiders like me (maybe that’s the independence part of FIRE)

Strange.....
Does not seem strange to me. You'd likely get a similar mix of opinions from those that are still working.
To wit
** Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless to keep working
** I wonder how I can live on the money I'm getting paid, and still save for retirement
** Envious of some people because they have more than me

I suspect when I retire I'll think about these things. But will not dwell on them. The reality is you do not suddenly change when you stop working for a living. I could be wrong

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Post by cfs » Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:13 pm

dknightd wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:19 pm
I want to retire!
Yes You Can. Si Se Puede.

Good luck y gracias por leer / cfs
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Post by GCD » Wed Jun 13, 2018 9:37 pm

PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
Early 50’s here and don’t want to derail a harmless thread, but I have some random thoughts on these posts. Reading these I have encountered all these emotions:

**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
** I wonder how many of these people worry about spending too much each day so they don’t run out of money
**Envious of some of the people who seem to care very little about what their retirement “appears” to outsiders like me (maybe that’s the independence part of FIRE)

Strange.....
I don't think most BHs worry too much about running out of money. If they are living a simple existence that is probably by choice more than that they are scrimping along trying to live on the cheap. That's more of a MMM thing.

While some people have posted things that seem boring/purposeless to you, the wonderful thing about retirement is that you are free to do whatever you want. When I retired I told my wife I felt like I was 18 again. I could pursue literally anything I wanted to, except it was better than 18 because now I have money. You also have to remember the thread isn't "what was your most productive and exciting day in retirement". Just like work, some days are better than others.

If you think some people lead boring lives in retirement then make it your personal mission to not let that happen to you. Since retiring I have spent more time helping my kids with their homework and gotten more involved in their athletics and hobbies. I have thrown myself into building combat robots with my son, work out regularly instead of intermittently, take college classes in math and astronomy, took up sailing and spearfishing, am working with my wife on getting some advanced sailing certifications and licenses, and am working on some lifelong competitive pistol shooting goals. When I get done with all that I want to get certified as a sommelier and travel more internationally. Whether that is boring and purposeless to anyone else is irrelevant. I am having the time of my life.

Make your retirement what you want it to be. This thread should inspire you. Either to do like the people in this thread or to avoid their fate. :beer

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Post by 2015 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 10:00 pm

dknightd wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:05 pm
PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
Early 50’s here and don’t want to derail a harmless thread, but I have some random thoughts on these posts. Reading these I have encountered all these emotions:

**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
** I wonder how many of these people worry about spending too much each day so they don’t run out of money
**Envious of some of the people who seem to care very little about what their retirement “appears” to outsiders like me (maybe that’s the independence part of FIRE)

Strange.....
Does not seem strange to me. You'd likely get a similar mix of opinions from those that are still working.
To wit
** Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless to keep working
** I wonder how I can live on the money I'm getting paid, and still save for retirement
** Envious of some people because they have more than me

I suspect when I retire I'll think about these things. But will not dwell on them. The reality is you do not suddenly change when you stop working for a living. I could be wrong
In my case, yes. I've changed so radically since I retired 3 years ago that I'm now an entirely different person. So much has transformed that it's hard to believe the people, places, and things I was interested in as recently as 5 years ago.

Retirement boring? Purposeless?? If anything, I should be depressed because retirement has meant always too much to do and not enough time to do it in (reason I'm not depressed is because as soon as this year's crushing elder care obligations have been eased I intend to cut back on most activity in a major way).

Retirement means different things to different people. Some people are self-generative and have never been bored; others need guidelines on their life via activities from some external source. Neither is better, just find which one you are and adjust accordingly.

Seems to me frugal people spend the way they do not because they're worried about running out of money but because they've learned money is a cheap substitute for fulfillment, satisfaction, and contentment. When money is no longer an issue you can relax about it, at least I did.

The very best thing about retirement (and getting older) I've found is the loss of all those things you think you needed to be, or do, or have, and consequently, the last thing you care about is how anything about you appears to "outsiders".

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by lynneny » Wed Jun 13, 2018 11:32 pm

Retirement is new to me (after layoff a few months ago at 61) so I still get excited about the freedom to do what I want, like spending a beautiful summer day outdoors rather than in a cubicle.

Today I slept until I woke up, about two hours later than I would have been jolted out of a sound sleep by the alarm clock I used to set to get up for work.

Walked to yoga, then chatted with the teacher and several other students. (I used to race off at the end of classes, to get back to work at lunchtime or catch train home after work).

Walked to public library to pick up this month's book for local book club I joined now that I'm not working late at night.

Volunteered in the afternoon. To keep up my Spanish and contribute to community, I volunteer with an immigrant rights' group; they desperately need Spanish speakers. Very rewarding, although sometimes heartbreaking given challenges for immigrants in current political climate. Excellent for my Spanish, especially working with people from lots of different countries, so I'm exposed to a wide range of accents and vocabulary. (One of the challenges of Spanish is that it varies so much from country to country).

Had friends over to enjoy long summer evening with drinks and dinner outdoors.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by mouses » Thu Jun 14, 2018 12:06 am

Lynette wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:26 am
Most days I go to McDonalds and get a Diet coke, coffee and a yogurt parfait. I had some minor surgery so am supposed to take it easy but it is day 11 - and I wanted to fix my garden. The guy on the lawn service motorized lawn mower totally destroys my lawn. Last year I had a new driveway installed and the guys dumped some water with concrete on the side of my lawn. So I got some lawn repair, seed and top soil from Home Depot. Then I repaired the patches and watered it frequently. A few days ago I discovered tracks of the motorized lawn mower on those patches! Last year I bought an interesting tree called dwarf picea orientalis (Skylands spruce) and planted it in the back where I had removed another tree.

So I dug up the spruce and transported it to the front yard where I have the bare patches, dug a hole and planted it. I also moved some of the soil and mulch to the front in my wheelbarrow. The balcony of the large house that was built recently overlooks my back yard. I removed some arbor vitae that I planted over 20 years ago as they were too large. I planted some new ones but they will take a few years to grow. We have a great nursery in my area so I've been shopping for more trees. Eventually I settled on a Colorado spruce. In Michigan we have a service called Miss Dig that locates utility lines. I think I'm in the clear - maybe. I had a plumbing company install a catch drain at the back of my property that goes into the city sewer at the front. I don't think that they will mark the lines for me but I know where it is and the tree planting service does not use power equipment. So I'll have to watch them like a hawk when they deliver the tree in a weeks time.

I'm also redoing part of my front yard. I may plant some more hosta around the Skylands spruce but decided it had better wait or the doctor will chew me out.

I had enrolled for a web design class at my local community college but I cancelled this when I discovered that they were using outdated software that I used at my megacorp 15 years ago. I plan to take Spanish at my local community college in the fall. They do not offer sufficient advanced classes. I suppose I should start to read Spanish newspapers and all of the books I have!

I have also been watching youtube videos on the development of the English language.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UqzBA1LNbE

I think that there are 8 one hour videos. I have also been watching youtube videos on some of the British monarch where my history was sketchy such as Edward VII, the Hanoverians, the Stuarts and the "Glorious Revolution". Well now to clean up from gardening and then study Spanish.
I wish you were my neighbor, we could compare gardening notes.

I don't know what it is with concrete people. I have "concrete dirt" near my deck footings, and last year I drove through some concrete slush in the street that was left from road work, and then had to scrub the car four or five times to get it off.

Although when I see Arborvitae, I think Always a mistake.

I spent the day snarled up with two construction projects for the house and petting the cat to keep my sanity.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by HongKonger » Thu Jun 14, 2018 5:41 am

GoldenFinch wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:11 pm
HongKonger wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 2:30 pm
Retired 5 years now mid 40s:
Got up and fed all my 40-odd rescue cats then had breakfast.
Loaded the cement mixer up and then the electricity went off so I walked to the village square for some shopping.
Came home and decided to tidy up my little vineyard so spent 2 hours at that.
A friend came by around lunchtime so we cracked open a bottle of wine she had brought in exchange for veggies from the garden. She left, I collected fruit from my trees before another friend swung by to barter my fruit for his chickens eggs.
Kitty dinner time ...then I watched the news for an hour, decided on dinner, and sat in the garden listening to the evening birdsong.
Dinner is cooking and I am on here.
Hopefully I can get back to cement making in the morning ..but days like today are a pleasure. I really love my life.
Your life is very interesting! A vineyard, cat farm, fruit orchard and cement business. I like it!
It beats the heck out of shilling for 5 star hotels/spas/airlines like I used to.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Lynette » Thu Jun 14, 2018 7:26 am

mouses wrote:
Thu Jun 14, 2018 12:06 am
Lynette wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:26 am
Most days I go to McDonalds and get a Diet coke, coffee and a yogurt parfait. I had some minor surgery so am supposed to take it easy but it is day 11 - and I wanted to fix my garden. The guy on the lawn service motorized lawn mower totally destroys my lawn. Last year I had a new driveway installed and the guys dumped some water with concrete on the side of my lawn. So I got some lawn repair, seed and top soil from Home Depot. Then I repaired the patches and watered it frequently. A few days ago I discovered tracks of the motorized lawn mower on those patches! Last year I bought an interesting tree called dwarf picea orientalis (Skylands spruce) and planted it in the back where I had removed another tree.

So I dug up the spruce and transported it to the front yard where I have the bare patches, dug a hole and planted it. I also moved some of the soil and mulch to the front in my wheelbarrow. The balcony of the large house that was built recently overlooks my back yard. I removed some arbor vitae that I planted over 20 years ago as they were too large. I planted some new ones but they will take a few years to grow. We have a great nursery in my area so I've been shopping for more trees. Eventually I settled on a Colorado spruce. In Michigan we have a service called Miss Dig that locates utility lines. I think I'm in the clear - maybe. I had a plumbing company install a catch drain at the back of my property that goes into the city sewer at the front. I don't think that they will mark the lines for me but I know where it is and the tree planting service does not use power equipment. So I'll have to watch them like a hawk when they deliver the tree in a weeks time.

I'm also redoing part of my front yard. I may plant some more hosta around the Skylands spruce but decided it had better wait or the doctor will chew me out.

I had enrolled for a web design class at my local community college but I cancelled this when I discovered that they were using outdated software that I used at my megacorp 15 years ago. I plan to take Spanish at my local community college in the fall. They do not offer sufficient advanced classes. I suppose I should start to read Spanish newspapers and all of the books I have!

I have also been watching youtube videos on the development of the English language.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UqzBA1LNbE

I think that there are 8 one hour videos. I have also been watching youtube videos on some of the British monarch where my history was sketchy such as Edward VII, the Hanoverians, the Stuarts and the "Glorious Revolution". Well now to clean up from gardening and then study Spanish.
I wish you were my neighbor, we could compare gardening notes.

I don't know what it is with concrete people. I have "concrete dirt" near my deck footings, and last year I drove through some concrete slush in the street that was left from road work, and then had to scrub the car four or five times to get it off.

Although when I see Arborvitae, I think Always a mistake.

I spent the day snarled up with two construction projects for the house and petting the cat to keep my sanity.
It would be fun to have a neighbor who is interested in gardening. :D

Happy Gardening.

Lynette

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Earl Lemongrab » Thu Jun 14, 2018 2:13 pm

A new chapter in the water heater saga!

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This week's fortune cookie: "Your financial life will be secure and beneficial." So I got that going for me, which is nice.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by UpperNwGuy » Thu Jun 14, 2018 2:34 pm

— went to the dentist
— put chicken in the crock pot for supper
— got a haircut
— went to the grocery store
— took a nap
— now getting ready to take a 3-4 mile walk

Retirement rocks!

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by midareff » Thu Jun 14, 2018 4:48 pm

We finished for our trip to the Ukraine on the Viking Sineous. Leaving tomorrow back on the 26th. Hired a nice local kid to pickup the mail and water our house plants, limo coming to take us to the airport at 1:30 tomorrow. The only decision I have agonized over is what camera gear to pack or carry. Wife is packed and ready and so am I except for packing the cpap tomorrow AM. C y'all in a couple of weeks.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by telemark » Thu Jun 14, 2018 9:10 pm

This week has been a little busy and it's not over yet, but that isn't a typical week for me. A good thing, too, because I couldn't take the pace. Ordinarily, as a recent retiree I've fallen into the pattern of alternating busy days, when I run around and try to accomplish things, with lazy days, when I lie around reading, napping, or just doing nothing at all.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by praxis » Thu Jun 14, 2018 9:28 pm

Free for 13 years. 69 next month
Made coffee for us at 5 am
Did workout at 6 am
Watered garden
Repaired cattle fence
Checked water pump in trout pond
Repaired both guest room shower rods
Reviewed water regulation report for neighborhood
Helped neighbor with deck
Discussed broken water heater strategy with plumber
Read about Honduran banana empire while drinking lunch shake
Made bean nachos for our dinner
Watched BBC special with DW
Poured a sherry
Shower
Down before 9

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Sheepdog » Fri Jun 15, 2018 3:36 am

Thursday 7 am attended my breakfast Rotary meeting. I'm a 40 year member. Good attendance with good fellowship. Nice program today.Looked over and trimmed my vegetable and flower gardens. They are doing good this year. Fed the goldfish
Cut my half acre lawn with my walk behind mower. Not too hot today.
Walked the dog and more.
Received in the mail Fathers Day cards and thoughtful gifts some of which I put to use right away.
We went to our favorite park at 6 pm where there is a wonderful pioneer village (Fowler Park). I cooked hamburgers and fries, had a cocktail, and took a long walk with my sheepdog trough the village and around the lake.
It was a good day
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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by dumbbunny » Fri Jun 15, 2018 4:30 am

Retired for 10 years except for a 2 year volunteer-turned part-time job with my church. I am 64.
Got up at 4 am and made coffee.
Browsed this forum and watched pre-US Open telecast.
Wife gets up at 7 am and we talk and watch the Today show until 9 am.
I planted a clematis and putzed in the garage/yard for awhile.
She went to women's golf and I had lunch.
Volunteered at a food bank for low-income families.
Went to driving range to warm up before my (1 hour) golf lesson.
Took a two hour nap.
Fired up the kamado to cook dinner.
Ate dinner while watching local and national news.
Watched one hour Netflix
In bed by 9 pm.
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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by praxis » Fri Jun 15, 2018 8:42 am

VictoriaF wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 9:33 pm
quote=2015 post_id=3968664 time=1528760751 user_id=51323]
We face more death than when we were younger, but we also have more wisdom to weave its horror and lessons into our lives and continue following our personal missions.

Be well,

Victoria
Great thought, V. 18 years ago, I took hospice volunteer training because I was fearful of death myself, like many people. I knew I was soon to face my parent's deaths and eventually my own. For 18 years, I have sat with dying people and their families regularly, and through their experiences have grown stronger and I might even say wiser about death's meaning for me. This has been a great gift to me.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by TheTimeLord » Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:33 am

dknightd wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 7:05 pm
PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
Early 50’s here and don’t want to derail a harmless thread, but I have some random thoughts on these posts. Reading these I have encountered all these emotions:

**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
** I wonder how many of these people worry about spending too much each day so they don’t run out of money
**Envious of some of the people who seem to care very little about what their retirement “appears” to outsiders like me (maybe that’s the independence part of FIRE)

Strange.....
Does not seem strange to me. You'd likely get a similar mix of opinions from those that are still working.
To wit
** Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless to keep working
My paycheck addresses this. While my job does give me a sense of purpose I try to never lose sight of the primary reason why I work.
** I wonder how I can live on the money I'm getting paid, and still save for retirement
Being Financially Independent just covering monthly expenses is like saving. That said still save roughly 35%-50% of monthly pay.
** Envious of some people because they have more than me
Too busy for such foolishness

I suspect when I retire I'll think about these things. But will not dwell on them. The reality is you do not suddenly change when you stop working for a living. I could be wrong
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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Faith20879 » Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:48 am

PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
You can also look at the survey result from a different angle. Every living person has some high days and some low days. The Bogleheads who are not posting to this thread may just be in their high days - sailing around the world, climbing the Great Wall, feeding the hungry, or what have you. The ones are, may just be having a lay-low day.

I, myself, is in the OMY dilemma - work is boring but have no idea how to fill my days if I stop.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by TheTimeLord » Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:53 am

Faith20879 wrote:
Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:48 am
PoultryMan wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:44 pm
**Depressed because it seems so boring and purposeless in retirement
You can also look at the survey result from a different angle. Every living person has some high days and some low days. The Bogleheads who are not posting to this thread may just be in their high days - sailing around the world, climbing the Great Wall, feeding the hungry, or what have you. The ones are, may just be having a lay-low day.

I, myself, is in the OMY dilemma - work is boring but have no idea how to fill my days if I stop.
A couple friends and I discuss this topic fairly regularly and have never found an answer. That said I have a friend who is happily retired (mid 50s) filling his days with things I would never have considered, more day to day mundane things. But he is happy, so it is working for him.

That said, at this point I am amazed at the affect of each OMY which essentially trades out an portfolio sucking expensive pre-FRA year for a much cheaper to my portfolio post-FRA SS and pension supplemented year.
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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by KT785 » Fri Jun 15, 2018 10:26 am

Lynette wrote:
Wed Jun 13, 2018 5:17 pm
John McCain's mother and twin sister traveled the world together in their nineties. At 95, Ms McCain tried to rent a car. The rental agency would not rent her one so she bought one.

https://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/14/trav ... sters.html
Interesting article--just realized Mrs. McCain is now 106 years old . . . wonder if she just renewed her passport for another 10 years :happy

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by sport » Fri Jun 15, 2018 10:31 am

Faith20879 wrote:
Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:48 am
work is boring but have no idea how to fill my days if I stop.
Here is an idea: Find a hobby you like. Many people find this is a good one in retirement. www.acbl.org
Caution. If you find that you enjoy it, it can be addictive.

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by Nestegg_User » Fri Jun 15, 2018 11:03 am

Yesterday, shopped for supplies/accessories for the RV trailer we just picked up (used 25 ft in excellent condition for under 10k). did a clean up of trailer; it’s already very clean, just wanted to make sure refrigerator/freezer is good, etc.

This morning, made coffee and looked out on our views of the mountains, made cheese-filled poblano peppers , bacon and eggs. Heading out to coffee clatch with other retirees, then will call contractor about clean out of the pond in the rear acreage (it’s too far out of control for us to clean up; will need to remove some of the fish beforehand)

Tonight, likely will be either prime rib or steak along with bearnaise sauce with a nice merlot and the discussion will be what trips to make in the trailer



(third year of retirement/early sixties)

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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by wrongfunds » Fri Jun 15, 2018 11:13 am

That said, at this point I am amazed at the affect of each OMY which essentially trades out an portfolio sucking expensive pre-FRA year for a much cheaper to my portfolio post-FRA SS and pension supplemented year.
TheTimeLord; you definitely need to frame this and put in on your wall!






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Re: Life in retirement - what did you do today?

Post by S&L1940 » Fri Jun 15, 2018 11:43 am

CULater wrote:
Mon Jun 11, 2018 9:52 am
Retirement is a bore -- and then you die.
Went to bed really late - like early morning; got our six hours of sleep; leisurely got up and worked out (weights and light yoga stretches); then breakfast at about noon - 1.00 p.m.; kind of a rainy day so no tennis - we would have gotten up earlier if we were planning to play - or swimming so we went to the farmers market, Costco and Walmart; tired took naps; for dinner we ate in rather than doing one of our three-four days of dining out. Sometimes we do a lazy day of simply reading out on the patio and increase our nap activity, that will be today's activity.
Don't it always seem to go * That you don't know what you've got * Till it's gone

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