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Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:18 am

Our daughter and her friend, both having just finished their freshman year of college, are planning a summer road trip. They are driving from the eastern U.S. to the western U.S., spending time in Southern Utah, Grand Canyon and other stops. Their main activities will be sight seeing and hiking. They will be staying in AirB&B homes, national park campgrounds, and occasionally in Best Westerns. Their average stay will cost $65 per night. They are excited; their parents are anxious. Advice?

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by LarryAllen » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:20 am

My only advice is to realize they have been on their own a year and can't get in that much more trouble on the road than they could have at school. Some of my worst decisions were in or near the dorms freshman year. Did a cross country trip junior year of college with no problems.

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Post by pacodelostigres » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:21 am

Ask them what they enjoyed most when they return, in case you want to make a similar trip some day.

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Post by Richr » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:27 am

Get the free app "find your friends" or like it, so that you can see where she is at (gps for phone)

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by Glockenspiel » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:32 am

Only advice should be to gift them a can of pepper spray, never leave your drink unattended, have fun, and live without regret.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by Tamarind » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:37 am

Advise them to enjoy at least one desert sunrise. Sounds like a great trip.

As college students, I guarantee they already know to watch each other's drinks.

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Post by Pajamas » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:38 am

Don't leave stuff in the vehicle overnight at motels and similar.

Check for bed bugs.

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Post by Broken Man 1999 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:39 am

Awesome! They will have memories for life, and this experience will get both of them out of the college "cocoon" and expose them to many learning opportunities. Right from the start, everything might be carefully planned, but there will be challenges they will have to overcome I would imagine. Life happens, and not always according to plans. But, that is how we grow.

Work out a reasonable way for them to let you know how they are, without "helicoptering" and sit back and relax.

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Post by mak1277 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:40 am

Make sure they're taking a reliable vehicle and know basic car maintenance (at least how to jump it and change a tire).

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:41 am

Glockenspiel wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:32 am
Only advice should be to gift them a can of pepper spray, never leave your drink unattended, have fun, and live without regret.
I "gifted" pepper spray at the beginning of the school year.

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:43 am

mak1277 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:40 am
Make sure they're taking a reliable vehicle and know basic car maintenance (at least how to jump it and change a tire).
They have a reliable vehicle, loaned by one of the dads, and our daughter is a member of AAA because she drives 3 hours home from school.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by mak1277 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:45 am

gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:43 am
mak1277 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:40 am
Make sure they're taking a reliable vehicle and know basic car maintenance (at least how to jump it and change a tire).
They have a reliable vehicle, loaned by one of the dads, and our daughter is a member of AAA because she drives 3 hours home from school.

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AAA membership is a safety net...be able to change a tire is a skill. Plus AAA only works if there's a cell signal.

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Post by Glockenspiel » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:46 am

mak1277 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:40 am
Make sure they're taking a reliable vehicle and know basic car maintenance (at least how to jump it and change a tire).
This is a good one! I'd make sure the oil has recently been changed, all the fluids are good, and check the air pressure in the tires before they go.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by mhc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:53 am

They may be in some pretty remote areas. I carry a 5 gallon container of water and have extra food. There is not always cellular service.

Let them make their own mistakes. They will learn from them.

Wish them well and send them on their way.

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Post by Katietsu » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:55 am

Remind them that there are chunks of the country without cell phone service and where gas stations are widely spaced. Plan for this. Take a separate GPS unit, or drive a car with a built in GPS. Remember that 911 works on a cell phone even if your carrier does not have coverage but another company does have coverage. Keep a couple dozen of bottles of water and some breakfast bars in the car.

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:00 am

The cell phone coverage is something I have thought about. Will a stand-alone GPS unit work in those areas? Good ideas about bringing bottles of water and bars of some kind. Reminding them to keep gas in the tank is a good idea. Thanks!

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by Sandtrap » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:04 am

Safety, safety, safety.

Solid Itinerary with changes updated, for you. (check in daily)
Family friends or relatives across the country to visit?
2 Cell phones with GPS location trackers linked to your pc/mac. (apps for that)
Dependable vehicle (fully stocked with emergency gear of all types)
money, credit cards
Help them plan their basic route. IE: Garmin Adventure?
And more safety. . . .

(as a fellow dad. . I would be both vicariously elated for them. . . and . . stressed. . . . :shock: )
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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by dm200 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:07 am

mhc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:53 am
They may be in some pretty remote areas. I carry a 5 gallon container of water and have extra food. There is not always cellular service.
Let them make their own mistakes. They will learn from them.
Wish them well and send them on their way.
Make sure to not run out of gasoline -- BUT, just in case, take an approved container - just in case.

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Post by dm200 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:09 am

Coordinate/communcate with the other girl's parents - make sure both stories match :)

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Post by jerryk68 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:12 am

Richr wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:27 am
Get the free app "find your friends" or like it, so that you can see where she is at (gps for phone)
+1 My son did the cross country trip and my daughter did a Semester-at-Sea and earned credits. Would recommend the "Find Friends" app for your peace of mind.
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Post by HomerJ » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:13 am

gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:00 am
The cell phone coverage is something I have thought about. Will a stand-alone GPS unit work in those areas? Good ideas about bringing bottles of water and bars of some kind. Reminding them to keep gas in the tank is a good idea. Thanks!

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Here's a product from Garmin that allows one to text normally and send an SOS if necessary (monitored 24/7) from anywhere on the planet

https://explore.garmin.com/en-US/inreach/

Not cheap though. Used by hikers in remote locations usually.
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Post by Glockenspiel » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:14 am

Sandtrap wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:04 am

Solid Itinerary with changes updated, for you. (check in daily)
2 Cell phones with GPS location trackers linked to your pc/mac. (apps for that)
For me, this is too helicoptery for me. Let them live and make their own mistakes. They need to have the confidence in themselves to not have to constantly be texting or calling with check-in locations. Make sure they have a solid plan in advance, but then back off and let them do their own thing.

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Post by lthenderson » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:15 am

gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:00 am
The cell phone coverage is something I have thought about. Will a stand-alone GPS unit work in those areas?
Yes, GPS are satellite based.

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gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:00 am
The cell phone coverage is something I have thought about. Will a stand-alone GPS unit work in those areas? Good ideas about bringing bottles of water and bars of some kind. Reminding them to keep gas in the tank is a good idea. Thanks!

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A basic first aid kit, and make sure their medical insurance covers them throughout the country, and they've got their insurance cards.
Also extra supplies of any Rx drugs that might be difficult to get from a physician who doesn't know them (plus why risk needing to find a physician/make an appointment, or end up at urgent care, for something one knows one does or might need).

An extra charge card (or two) in case one is lost, or one is shut down due to a fraud concern (or actual fraud).

Emergency flares, just in case...
A blanket, or one of those emergency thin blankets, if they'll be in an area where the desert can get cold at night, especially at higher altitudes.

Like the old Scouting motto: "Be Prepared!"

Water is absolutely critical, and more is better. I'd suggest several smaller containers than one big jug.

And a gentle reminder to keep those cell phones *charged*!
A car break-down (dead battery, out of gas....) and dying/dead cell phones is... not good.

Extra toilet paper.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by dm200 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:18 am

Make BOTH of them learn (and show you) how to change a tire on the car they will be taking. Make sure spare (whether full size or donut) is fully OK.

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Post by Pajamas » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:18 am

That sucking sound you hear is all the fun being drained out of what was supposed to be a fun cross-country road trip. :oops:

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Post by BanditKing » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:22 am

Are they friends or are they a romantic couple ("girlfriend" could have different meanings in this context)? If the latter, there are certain parts of the country where same-sex public displays of affection can actually put a couple into a dangerous situation. It's not right, but it is an unfortunate reality.
The only warning would be cognizant of that.

Otherwise, have fun, stay safe, and watch the sunrise/sunset over the Grand Canyon.

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Post by aristotelian » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:30 am

They should watch "Thelma and Louise" and have a blast.

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:43 am

BanditKing wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:22 am
Are they friends or are they a romantic couple ("girlfriend" could have different meanings in this context)? If the latter, there are certain parts of the country where same-sex public displays of affection can actually put a couple into a dangerous situation. It's not right, but it is an unfortunate reality.
The only warning would be cognizant of that.

Otherwise, have fun, stay safe, and watch the sunrise/sunset over the Grand Canyon.
They are friends- grew up playing soccer together through high school, then went to different colleges.

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Post by auggiedoggies » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:44 am

Man, some of these replies make it seem like they're driving through a 3rd world country. Special devices that send an SOS signal when there's no cell service? GPS tracking apps? What's next, a shotgun and a set of crutches?

As a pair of 19 year old college girls who have already lived on their own for a year (presumably) I'm sure they will be just fine. Did you check in with them every single day when they were in college?

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Post by PhilosophyAndrew » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:50 am

Pajamas wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:18 am
That sucking sound you hear is all the fun being drained out of what was supposed to be a fun cross-country road trip. :oops:
+1

Unless you have reason to think either kid is unusually irresponsible, this sounds like a fun adventure to spread their wings independently. The most important thing you can do is be excited for them and let them know that you will offer them extra support if they ever need it and ask for it.

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:51 am

auggiedoggies wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:44 am
Man, some of these replies make it seem like they're driving through a 3rd world country. Special devices that send an SOS signal when there's no cell service? GPS tracking apps? What's next, a shotgun and a set of crutches?

As a pair of 19 year old college girls who have already lived on their own for a year (presumably) I'm sure they will be just fine. Did you check in with them every single day when they were in college?
Nope.

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Post by RollTide31457 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am

Ensure that they 100% finance the trip from their summer job earnings.

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Post by quantAndHold » Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am

Is this the kid that isn’t getting her inheritance until age 35 or 50 or something? I think I see a pattern...

Tell her to have a good time. And take lots of pictures.

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Post by vitaflo » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:03 am

Pajamas wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:18 am
That sucking sound you hear is all the fun being drained out of what was supposed to be a fun cross-country road trip. :oops:
Yup. They're adults. Just let them be on their way and have fun. People worry way too much about every little thing. It's obnoxious.

My wife did a trip like this when she was 19 (20 years ago). Her and her girlfriend still talk fondly of it.

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Check tires for proper treadwear
Inflate tires to proper levels
A can of Flat-Fix; never used it but if in a pinch may come in handy
Keep a pair of jumper cables, just in case. A tire jack and lug wrench. I always keep a quart of motor oil in the car and a roll of shop towels or paper towels. Swiss Army knife,some para-cord, can they read a compass and a map?
Granola and/or some unsalted nuts.
Road flares
Bottled water - more if going into desert type terrain.
First-aid kit - more than just some band-aids (safe than sorry)
Check battery
Check the belts of the engine compartment, nothing is worse than losing your A/C and power steering
Change the oil before they leave
Change the wipers
Give them a gas can; approved - if heading to the back-country fill it up before they leave for it
Top up the bank account
Notify credit card companies which states you'll be in and when

Don't accept beverages from strangers - it goes with out saying, everyone they will meet on the road is a stranger.

Have a good time! Take lots of pictures.
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RollTide31457 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am
Ensure that they 100% finance the trip from their summer job earnings.
Yes. But thinking about giving them a financial "gift" at the last minute- just so they don't have to take unnecessary risks if unplanned circumstances arise. Haven't decided yet though- they will each have an emergency credit card.

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quantAndHold wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am
Is this the kid that isn’t getting her inheritance until age 35 or 50 or something? I think I see a pattern...

Tell her to have a good time. And take lots of pictures.
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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:09 am

Grt2bOutdoors wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:06 am
Check tires for proper treadwear
Inflate tires to proper levels
A can of Flat-Fix; never used it but if in a pinch may come in handy
Keep a pair of jumper cables, just in case. A tire jack and lug wrench. I always keep a quart of motor oil in the car and a roll of shop towels or paper towels. Swiss Army knife,some para-cord, can they read a compass and a map?
Granola and/or some unsalted nuts.
Road flares
Bottled water - more if going into desert type terrain.
First-aid kit - more than just some band-aids (safe than sorry)
Check battery
Check the belts of the engine compartment, nothing is worse than losing your A/C and power steering
Change the oil before they leave
Change the wipers
Give them a gas can; approved - if heading to the back-country fill it up before they leave for it
Top up the bank account
Notify credit card companies which states you'll be in and when

Don't accept beverages from strangers - it goes with out saying, everyone they will meet on the road is a stranger.

Have a good time! Take lots of pictures.
Nice list. Thank you.

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Post by Grt2bOutdoors » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:10 am

gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:06 am
RollTide31457 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am
Ensure that they 100% finance the trip from their summer job earnings.
Yes. But thinking about giving them a financial "gift" at the last minute- just so they don't have to take unnecessary risks if unplanned circumstances arise. Haven't decided yet though- they will each have an emergency credit card.

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When I think of "emergency" financial tools - there is nothing better than several "Benjamin or Ulysses" tucked away safely to have as a friend!
If they are doing any water type sports, put the stuff in a water-tight floatable container.

An extra battery for the cell phones - think they sell those in target for like $20.
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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:14 am

Grt2bOutdoors wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:10 am
gasdoc wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:06 am
RollTide31457 wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:53 am
Ensure that they 100% finance the trip from their summer job earnings.
Yes. But thinking about giving them a financial "gift" at the last minute- just so they don't have to take unnecessary risks if unplanned circumstances arise. Haven't decided yet though- they will each have an emergency credit card.

gasdoc
When I think of "emergency" financial tools - there is nothing better than several "Benjamin or Ulysses" tucked away safely to have as a friend!
If they are doing any water type sports, put the stuff in a water-tight floatable container.

An extra battery for the cell phones - think they sell those in target for like $20.
I have a portable charger they can use- bought it when they used to take soccer trips together by bus.

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Post by k3vb0t » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:17 am

I'd be curious which of the items listed above by Grt2BOutdoors they have come up with on their own. I'd approach it like "Alright, walk me through the entire trip and how you plan to stay safe, what you're bringing with you, etc." - this would give you a good idea of how far in advance they've thought, and allow you to gently provide some suggestions that they haven't thought of without the included "Dadddd... eye roll"

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Post by Dottie57 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:21 am

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Our daughter and her friend, both having just finished their freshman year of college, are planning a summer road trip. They are driving from the eastern U.S. to the western U.S., spending time in Southern Utah, Grand Canyon and other stops. Their main activities will be sight seeing and hiking. They will be staying in AirB&B homes, national park campgrounds, and occasionally in Best Westerns. Their average stay will cost $65 per night. They are excited; their parents are anxious. Advice?

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Post by ponyboy » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:27 am

I also recommend making sure both know how to change a tire. Get a breaker bar so they can loosen the lug nuts. They're like $10 at harbor freight. No matter how hard the lugs are on the weakest person can get them off with a breaker bar.

AAA is great...but like others said...they wont have cell service the entire time.

Also...even with a reliable car they may want to stop after 5k miles and get an oil change somewhere...assuming they are going to drive more than 5k miles.

If anything...just keep in contact though text...they can fill you in where they're going each day or where they currently are. Teenagers are glued to their phones...each day they should be somewhere with cell service if only for an hour. Will only take a minute out of their day.

Like some others mentioned...dont take drinks from strangers period. Its so easy for someone to slip a Cosby pill in a drink without their knowledge. It will never end well.

Other than that...tell them to have fun. They're going to have a blast!
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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:28 am

k3vb0t wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:17 am
I'd be curious which of the items listed above by Grt2BOutdoors they have come up with on their own. I'd approach it like "Alright, walk me through the entire trip and how you plan to stay safe, what you're bringing with you, etc." - this would give you a good idea of how far in advance they've thought, and allow you to gently provide some suggestions that they haven't thought of without the included "Dadddd... eye roll"
Good approach. Thanks. I know they have thought of the pepper spray themselves. I will have some time alone with our daughter the weekend before the trip, including a three hour car ride home from school. Perfect opportunity to "walk through the trip."

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Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:30 am

ponyboy wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:27 am
I also recommend making sure both know how to change a tire. Get a breaker bar so they can loosen the lug nuts. They're like $10 at harbor freight. No matter how hard the lugs are on the weakest person can get them off with a breaker bar.

AAA is great...but like others said...they wont have cell service the entire time.

Also...even with a reliable car they may want to stop after 5k miles and get an oil change somewhere...assuming they are going to drive more than 5k miles.

Other than that...tell them to have fun. They're going to have a blast!
Hopefully, an oil change before the trip will suffice. They will have AAA, assuming they have cell service. The breaker bar is a good idea. It's the other dad's car they will be driving, so I'll be communicating with him the week before the trip.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by GoldenFinch » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:41 am

I tell my daughter to always appear confident like she knows the area. Try not to look like a tourist. Avoid isolating yourself. Don’t speed.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by Doom&Gloom » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:44 am

Toss your checklists in the trash. This is their trip! Let them make the checklists they need.

Once you have ensured that they have a reliable vehicle, give them some common sense reminders as they leave (just to make you feel better), and tell them to have a blast!

DS and his friends have made at least two of these long-distance trips since he enrolled in college three years ago. I had the same trepidation initially, but they worked everything out fine themselves and have learned from each subsequent trip and gained lots of experiences.

This is simply part of their transition into adulthood.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by magicrat » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:46 am

This sounds like a great trip. My friend and I drove across Route 66 in college. I think we told our parents our rough itinerary and that was it. Doubt we called them at all during the trip (pre-cell phone) and am sure they didn't grill us on anything.

Sounds like the car is ready to go and they have a plan. Make sure they know to call if they need anything, and remind them to follow their instincts if something / someone doesn't seem right.

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Re: Daughter and Girlfriend, age 19, taking cross country road trip. Advice?

Post by gasdoc » Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:47 am

Doom&Gloom wrote:
Mon Apr 30, 2018 11:44 am
Toss your checklists in the trash. This is their trip! Let them make the checklists they need.

Once you have ensured that they have a reliable vehicle, give them some common sense reminders as they leave (just to make you feel better), and tell them to have a blast!

DS and his friends have made at least two of these long-distance trips since he enrolled in college three years ago. I had the same trepidation initially, but they worked everything out fine themselves and have learned from each subsequent trip and gained lots of experiences.

This is simply part of their transition into adulthood.

Not sure I should take advice from "Doom&Gloom," but thanks!

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