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airahcaz
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Divorce or Arbitration

Post by airahcaz » Fri Jan 12, 2018 11:52 am

For an elderly couple planning to part ways in FL, if amicable separation terms can be had, what is the easiest way to "settle"? They are both looking to avoid divorce lawyers and divorce court.

Basically looking for an easy way to avoid legal fees and execute a simple divorce, such as possibly having a relative as mediator?
Other assumption is separation comes first, but how would one spouse be supported in the interim?

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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by ResearchMed » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:01 pm

airahcaz wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 11:52 am
For an elderly couple planning to part ways in FL, if amicable separation terms can be had, what is the easiest way to "settle"? They are both looking to avoid divorce lawyers and divorce court.

Basically looking for an easy way to avoid legal fees and execute a simple divorce, such as possibly having a relative as mediator?
Other assumption is separation comes first, but how would one spouse be supported in the interim?

TIA
I think the word you want is mediation, and *not* arbitration.

But if there is already difficulty agreeing how one of spouses would be supported, it doesn't bode well for a truly amicable divorce.

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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by djpeteski » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:04 pm

If an amicable settlement can be found, you can do this by simply filing a petition with the county court house. About 30 days later, the divorce will be final. Each county is a little different, and you should basically call the clerk of court family division on how to go about it in your particular jurisdiction. The total bill will be less than $400. If you want a bit more of a service you could also involve a para-legal which can probably do all the filings for an additional $200 or so.

A coworker did this. She, first, paid a retainer (2500) to a large law firm to handle her uncontested divorce. They basically would not do what she and her soon to be ex wanted and it dragged on for months. Then she took matters in her own hands, and about 3 months later had it all wrapped up. The people from the clerk of courts department gave her good instructions and had it all taken care of despite her ex living out of state. A short time latter a judge banged the gavel on the matter.

This is very doable in Florida along with some other legal items.

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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by airahcaz » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:07 pm

ok so maybe mediation, but perhaps each will want minimal legal representation to make sure everything is legit? suffice to say it cannot be the same lawyer?
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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by Sandtrap » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:13 pm

Florida divorce document services:
http://info.legalzoom.com/file-simple-d ... 20432.html

http://www.flcourts.org/resources-and-s ... forms.stml

You may want to contact a reputable "legal document service" in Florida and ask how they can do all this for you.

IMHO: separate legal counsel is worth the money spent.
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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by ResearchMed » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:16 pm

airahcaz wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:07 pm
ok so maybe mediation, but perhaps each will want minimal legal representation to make sure everything is legit? suffice to say it cannot be the same lawyer?
Yes, they should probably each have at least a quick look-over by each one's own, independent attorney, so that neither can later claim (genuinely or not) that there was something 'funny' in the process or outcome...and also to make sure that the terms are what each thinks they are, etc.

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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by airahcaz » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:18 pm

Sandtrap wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:13 pm
Florida divorce document services:
http://info.legalzoom.com/file-simple-d ... 20432.html

http://www.flcourts.org/resources-and-s ... forms.stml

You may want to contact a reputable "legal document service" in Florida and ask how they can do all this for you.

IMHO: separate legal counsel is worth the money spent.
j :D
Ugh, where does one even start on this, referrals? The fear is legal reps will start to add up quickly - I suppose to prevent that, terms need to be agreed as best possible by a mediator prior? Then the agreed divorce terms are merely shared with each person's legal rep?
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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by Sandtrap » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:24 pm

airahcaz wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:18 pm
Sandtrap wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:13 pm
Florida divorce document services:
http://info.legalzoom.com/file-simple-d ... 20432.html

http://www.flcourts.org/resources-and-s ... forms.stml

You may want to contact a reputable "legal document service" in Florida and ask how they can do all this for you.

IMHO: separate legal counsel is worth the money spent.
j :D
Ugh, where does one even start on this, referrals? The fear is legal reps will start to add up quickly - I suppose to prevent that, terms need to be agreed as best possible by a mediator prior? Then the agreed divorce terms are merely shared with each person's legal rep?
A middle ground between merely having a document service help you with the paperwork and processing may be to seek "flat fee" legal counsel.
Where there is substantial wealth and complex family dynamics, all the more reason for "legal counsel".

Divorces are tough. :(
j
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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by airahcaz » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:26 pm

Sandtrap wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:24 pm
airahcaz wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:18 pm
Sandtrap wrote:
Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:13 pm
Florida divorce document services:
http://info.legalzoom.com/file-simple-d ... 20432.html

http://www.flcourts.org/resources-and-s ... forms.stml

You may want to contact a reputable "legal document service" in Florida and ask how they can do all this for you.

IMHO: separate legal counsel is worth the money spent.
j :D
Ugh, where does one even start on this, referrals? The fear is legal reps will start to add up quickly - I suppose to prevent that, terms need to be agreed as best possible by a mediator prior? Then the agreed divorce terms are merely shared with each person's legal rep?
A middle ground between merely having a document service help you with the paperwork and processing may be to seek "flat fee" legal counsel.
Where there is substantial wealth and complex family dynamics, all the more reason for "legal counsel".
j
google? It's a bit odd to seek folks that have gotten divorced in FL, especially if they don't know of any...
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Re: Divorce or Arbitration

Post by airahcaz » Fri Jan 12, 2018 12:27 pm

Am assuming it's ideal if both lawyers are from FL, but what if one of the spouses left and is staying in another state? not advisable at all to seek someone local?
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