stoptothink wrote: mak1277 wrote: KlingKlang wrote:
mak1277 wrote:I will say, as a wedding guest, I truly appreciate big and expensive affairs. Attending a wedding with great food, free flowing drinks and good music is much more fun than attending a cheapo wedding.
Do you give a proportionately larger gift when you attend weddings with great food, free flowing drinks and good music?
Curious as to how you can possibly know this prior to actually attending the reception? I guess the setting could possible give you a hint, otherwise, you are making a very uneducated guess. Not to mention, IMO, providing a more expensive gift simply because the couple decides to blow more money on a party just seems weird.
Correct, the wedding venue can give a strong indication as to cost. If you get a wedding invitation and the venue is, say, the Ritz-Carlton Laguna Niguel you will definitely get a feel for the affair after you look up the room rates. Also, things like "black tie", etc. for dress will tip you off.
I suppose the wedding registry, assuming one exists, can also give a feel for things. The Ritz Laguna Niguel couple is unlikely to have registered at Target, I suspect, but may have plenty of listings on the likes of Tiffany, etc. Even if it's at a department store like Bloomingdales, if they are requesting 12-place settings of fine bone china at hundreds of dollars per item, and so on, that will convey a different message than the couple registered at Pottery Barn or Amazon where the most expensive gift is a $100 blanket or blender.
Whether one wants to practice it or not, I think the custom that each guest will cover the cost of his or her meal service is pretty common. Again, not saying that people should succumb to the pressure, but to some extent I think that may be the expectation (socially).
The last few weddings I've attended were for relatives. As they were all of the same generation / relation, I basically gave each couple the same amount (so as to be *fair*). The amount should have more than covered the cost of the dinner, etc. In one case, we didn't even attend, though the check was promptly cashed. Still waiting for the thank you note!