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A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult one

Post by Professor Emeritus » Mon Jul 14, 2014 2:41 pm

The discussion on Purses has emboldened me.
Without causing the slightest snickering or snide comments, I am interested in getting very very nice underwear for my DW. It does not appear to be as easy as buying Rockport or North face on amazon.com. She is a lifelong geek, never wears makeup, and wears black slacks 95% of the time. She is not into plunging necklines etc.
She is also retired on disability and could use a "pick me up" now and then.
I do very well with earrings, but you can only own and wear so many.
Currently when I shop for and with her, it consists of taking what she already owns (Jockey and Hanes )and getting more just like it. She is a small to medium so it is not an issue of structure.

So how should I go about it? What kind of budget is reasonable? My daughters (both smart jocks) would take her if I knew where to send her. Or do I sit and sip tea while some character out of an English comedy "fits"her?

If it's a dumb idea, fell free to say so, nicely :happy

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by pjstack » Mon Jul 14, 2014 3:10 pm

I have no understanding of the issue involved, but I commend your courage in braving "no mans land".
I really think your daughters are your very best asset in solving your problem. They most probably know where best to go and what to buy.
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Post by ResearchMed » Mon Jul 14, 2014 3:22 pm

Hopefully it wouldn't be John Cleese fitting her! :shock:

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Post by renata » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:37 pm

I would recommend Victoria's Secret. It is really comfortable and they have a huge selection of sizes and are very helpful with fitting and finding the best fit. My DH loves it:)

I'm sure you'll find something great!

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Post by livesoft » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:41 pm

There are guys working at Victoria's Secret to help you. I think the idea is that you buy something, gift it to her, then she goes to the store to return it and gets what she wants or needs.
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Post by meaghansketch » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:51 pm

Not really in my nature to post publicly about underwear (I sent you a PM), but my own experiences with Victoria's Secret have been extremely negative, especially in regards to fitting. They recommended a size for me which was very far off from the size I should have been wearing, and they didn't even stock the size I should have been wearing in stores, only online.

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Post by Ged » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:55 pm

livesoft wrote:There are guys working at Victoria's Secret to help you. I think the idea is that you buy something, gift it to her, then she goes to the store to return it and gets what she wants or needs.
I tried a Victoria's Secret gift card. My wife returned it to me unused. Really that place is designed for a very young customer.

I'd be interested to the answer to this question myself.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by VictoriaF » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:55 pm

Professor Emeritus wrote:I am interested in getting very very nice underwear for my DW.
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So how should I go about it?
You should modify your request and ask for Bogleladies to post their pictures in their favorite underwear. (I'll abstain because mine are an open secret.)

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Post by renata » Mon Jul 14, 2014 5:58 pm

:D
VictoriaF wrote:
Professor Emeritus wrote:I am interested in getting very very nice underwear for my DW.
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So how should I go about it?
You should modify your request and ask for Bogleladies to post their pictures in their favorite underwear. (I'll abstain because mine is an open secret.)

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Munir » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:01 pm

Since the term Bogleheads includes men and women, a more appropriate term to use in this question might be women Bogleheads. Bogleladies suggests a reference to the women of Bogle- which I know is not the OP's intention.

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Post by bottlecap » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:08 pm

VictoriaF wrote:(I'll abstain because mine are an open secret.)
Or a state secret?

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Post by sscritic » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:23 pm

I like to google. Being a googler is hard work, but someone has to do it. If I hit some soft core porn trying to do a favor for PE, so be it.

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/5451 ... awers.html

My favorites: Rosie for Autograph and Beautiful Bottoms.

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Post by sscritic » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:27 pm

And never forget the original, Frederick's of Hollywood.

http://www.fredericks.com

P.S. PE, forget what she likes, buy what you like.

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Post by letsgobobby » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:28 pm

Soma for something affordable.

There are some very expensive European brands but if your lady is a boglehead she will think they are too expensive.

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Post by scone » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:53 pm

Nordstrom has an excellent lingerie department with fitters who actually have a clue. Wacoal is a good brand, their stuff lasts and it's not tacky.

ETA: this is one area where spending a little more pays off in less back pain, more comfort, and maybe even better posture. You can see the results of poor fitting in lots of middle aged ladies, and it's not pretty. Decent underpinnings can take visual years and pounds off a woman, and that helps with self-esteem.
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Post by VictoriaF » Mon Jul 14, 2014 6:56 pm

sscritic wrote:http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/5451 ... awers.html

My favorites: Rosie for Autograph and Beautiful Bottoms.
My favorites: Rosie for Autograph and Stella McCartney.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by retiredjg » Mon Jul 14, 2014 7:03 pm

Professor Emeritus, I am impressed that you would even ask the question. Good for you!

Part of this depends on what you consider "underwear". If you mean those things that women wear on top and on bottom every day, getting a nice set might be fun for the both of you.

But don't expect her to wear it a lot. If she is wearing Jockey and Haynes, it is likely because that is what is comfortable for her. Those pretty things can be itchy or sticky or dig into her shoulders or a whole lot of things that may not appeal to her if she has a strong practical streak and finds comfort to be primary.

If you mean something other than everyday undies, find out what fabric she likes before you buy something. If she likes a cotton nightgown, don't buy polyester. But another natural fabric, like silk, might be fine.

Good luck with this one! You must be something special to have even thought to ask. :happy

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Post by sscritic » Mon Jul 14, 2014 7:07 pm

retiredjg wrote:Those pretty things can be itchy or sticky or dig into her shoulders or a whole lot of things that may not appeal to her if she has a strong practical streak and finds comfort to be primary.
Or, try to find something that is comfortable and looks nice.
The contents of underwear drawers splits opinion; some women have their comfortable favourites while others go for aesthetics. Bored of shoddy lacing and scratchy labels, we found the brands that tick both boxes, and more.
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Gattamelata » Mon Jul 14, 2014 7:26 pm

Following on with the comfort theme, another possibility is to get a bra fitting at a specialty shop that is highly regarded for the comfort of its fittings. I've heard rave reviews from women of all sizes, but particularly from women whose bosoms are generously proportioned. The consensus among women I know who've tried the local specialty bra shop is that most women spend their entire lives wearing ill-fitting bras, and they have straight-facedly made comments about the services like "life-changing" and "I can't go back," and "I wish I had known when I was a teenager." Apparently the right fitter can dramatically increase comfort and looks. It's not cheap, but based on what I've heard I'd consider it money well spent.

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Post by lhl12 » Mon Jul 14, 2014 9:12 pm

I would just caution you that in my household, a gift of lingerie to her by me is actually considered a gift to me, not to her. Your situation may be different, but be warned.

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Post by MN-Investor » Mon Jul 14, 2014 9:24 pm

Unless you know that she would appreciate fancy underwear, you might want to consider other options. I have a sister, for example, who loves nightwear from Victoria's Secret. That might be a safer option that your wife would prefer. Stick with the style she likes (pajamas or nightgown, for example), but buy a nice Victoria's Secret version of what she likes to sleep in.
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Post by Tanelorn » Mon Jul 14, 2014 10:02 pm

You could get her a Victoria Secret stock certificate (ticker LTD), but that might not be appreciated depending on the person. Alas, Fredrick's of Hollywood (ticker FOHL) is no longer available, having been acquired by a private equity firm.

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Post by Mrs.Feeley » Tue Jul 15, 2014 1:20 am

Gattamelata wrote:Following on with the comfort theme, another possibility is to get a bra fitting at a specialty shop that is highly regarded for the comfort of its fittings. I've heard rave reviews from women of all sizes, but particularly from women whose bosoms are generously proportioned. The consensus among women I know who've tried the local specialty bra shop is that most women spend their entire lives wearing ill-fitting bras, and they have straight-facedly made comments about the services like "life-changing" and "I can't go back," and "I wish I had known when I was a teenager." Apparently the right fitter can dramatically increase comfort and looks. It's not cheap, but based on what I've heard I'd consider it money well spent.
+1 This is an excellent idea.

I don't know how you'd go about finding such a place near you, it would take some research. But once you locate such an establishment, make an appointment, plan to make a day of it. Take your dear wife to lunch and the fitting, then encourage her to pick out some lingerie she would never splurge on for herself, and buy it for her. How to suggest it to her? Say the women on Bogleheads suggested it as a gift idea.

Another gift idea... If your wife suffers heat flushes/night sweats while sleeping, she might like to try night clothes made of wicking fabric. These are pricey. Maybe $50-$60 for a nightgown, more for p.j.s. But women who suffer nighttime flushes claim they help them sleep and keep them cool in the night and seem to think they're worth it. You'd have to do a bit of googling to research brands and read reviews.

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Post by DualIncomeNoDebt » Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:17 am

Gattamelata wrote:Following on with the comfort theme, another possibility is to get a bra fitting at a specialty shop that is highly regarded for the comfort of its fittings. I've heard rave reviews from women of all sizes, but particularly from women whose bosoms are generously proportioned.
This is exactly the way to go. Trust this recommendation. Get a gift certificate for several hundred dollars, and let the wife go, by herself, for a personal fitting. There will be female advisors who will do the sizing and any alterations if needed. Pieces typically cost $150 each, but they are worth it because they fit right, are comfortable, and will last. One suggestion is Intimacy, you can find them online, but you need to see if they have a store near you (only twelve locations in United States). Quality merch, it will cost you, but my woman thinks its worth it. Finally, I respectfully disagree with the Victoria Secret recommendation. Once you get the well-made pieces from a specialty shop that are properly fitted, you can easily compare it to VS stuff. Within two seconds, even to a know-nothing like me, it is obvious VS is cheaply made, and the lady reports it is ill-fitting and uncomfortable, i.e. mass market junk for people who don't know better. Go to a specialty store, go to Intimacy if near you. Avoid the mass market and get ready to pay a bit more.

As for budget, I usually get a gift certificate of around $500 when she goes.

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Post by Valuethinker » Tue Jul 15, 2014 6:14 am

Professor Emeritus wrote:The discussion on Purses has emboldened me.
Without causing the slightest snickering or snide comments, I am interested in getting very very nice underwear for my DW. It does not appear to be as easy as buying Rockport or North face on amazon.com. She is a lifelong geek, never wears makeup, and wears black slacks 95% of the time. She is not into plunging necklines etc.
She is also retired on disability and could use a "pick me up" now and then.
I do very well with earrings, but you can only own and wear so many.
Currently when I shop for and with her, it consists of taking what she already owns (Jockey and Hanes )and getting more just like it. She is a small to medium so it is not an issue of structure.

So how should I go about it? What kind of budget is reasonable? My daughters (both smart jocks) would take her if I knew where to send her. Or do I sit and sip tea while some character out of an English comedy "fits"her?

If it's a dumb idea, fell free to say so, nicely :happy
Lingerie department of an expensive department store like Sachs 5th Avenue or Bloomingdales? Gift certificate might also work. Canada it would be Holt Renfrew.

They will have fitters and a 'female friendly' environment. Think that scene in the boutique in 'Pretty Woman' ;-).

I'd put Victoria's Secret on the trashy end.

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Post by sscritic » Tue Jul 15, 2014 7:36 am

I could be wrong, but my impression was that custom fitted bras were more important for women with large breasts who suffer when the breasts are not properly supported.

I have been to one form of custom fitting: one for post mastectomy (without reconstruction) that involved fitting both the breast form and the bra to hold it. The shops we went to didn't do the custom fitting that is being discussed here.

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Post by Munir » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:28 am

How about men's underwear? Where can one get advice as to size, color, style etc..Maybe this would be a separate thread. What next for a financial forum? :happy

PS: I noticed that only two or three women commented in the above thread. Are males the exprerts on female lingerie?

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Post by meaghansketch » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:30 am

sscritic wrote: I could be wrong, but my impression was that custom fitted bras were more important for women with large breasts who suffer when the breasts are not properly supported.

I have been to one form of custom fitting: one for post mastectomy (without reconstruction) that involved fitting both the breast form and the bra to hold it. The shops we went to didn't do the custom fitting that is being discussed here.
Not sure what you mean by 'custom fitting'-- what is being discussed here is just a fitting, just with a person at a specialty shop who is knowledgeable about how a bra should fit and what styles are best suited to what types of bodies. The bras are off the rack, not custom in any way. I am sure it is more important for women with large breasts, but a properly fit bra can enhance comfort and appearance for anyone who has been wearing the wrong size (and many women are).

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Post by boomergeneration » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:35 am

I highly recommend Nordstroms. The salespeople there are extremely knowledgeable and will measure her to be sure the fit is right.

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Post by sscritic » Tue Jul 15, 2014 10:05 am

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sscritic wrote: I could be wrong, but my impression was that custom fitted bras were more important for women with large breasts who suffer when the breasts are not properly supported.

I have been to one form of custom fitting: one for post mastectomy (without reconstruction) that involved fitting both the breast form and the bra to hold it. The shops we went to didn't do the custom fitting that is being discussed here.
Not sure what you mean by 'custom fitting'-- what is being discussed here is just a fitting, just with a person at a specialty shop who is knowledgeable about how a bra should fit and what styles are best suited to what types of bodies. The bras are off the rack, not custom in any way. I am sure it is more important for women with large breasts, but a properly fit bra can enhance comfort and appearance for anyone who has been wearing the wrong size (and many women are).
You are correct; I used the wrong word. As I wrote, my experience is with post mastectomy fittings. The forms are certainly not custom made. While not off the rack, they are off the shelf and out of the box, just as they came from the manufacturer. You have the choice of round or pointed, symmetric or asymmetric, but nothing is custom other than you.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by MoonOrb » Tue Jul 15, 2014 10:52 am

Have you asked her what she wants?

I'd start by asking her what she wants and likes.

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Post by Christine_NM » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:36 am

MoonOrb wrote:Have you asked her what she wants?

I'd start by asking her what she wants and likes.
+1

Always a good idea.
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Post by sscritic » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:42 am

No, if you ask her, she will say she doesn't want a high end purse. Buy one anyway. Now take her shopping with you so she can choose, but don't let her pull that bogleheaded "it's too expensive."

Oh, wrong thread, same principle.

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Post by downshiftme » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:46 am

There are guys working at Victoria's Secret to help you. I think the idea is that you buy something, gift it to her, then she goes to the store to return it and gets what she wants or needs.
Most states specifically outlaw merchandise returns of underwear. I would certainly not want to shop at a store selling underwear that might be customer returns. This may be a situation where gift cards work better than buying an actual item that's almost right, anticipating a return.

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Post by Rupert » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:54 am

First, are you sure she'll appreciate this gift? Some women do not like fancy underthings. They wear Jockey for a reason. Second, are you sure this gift is not for you, instead of her? On many an occasion I have encountered men shopping in stores like Victoria's Secret and thought to myself: "Oh, that poor woman. Not getting anything she actually wants for [insert special occasion]." Men of the world, listen -- The following is a list of items that men think women want but women often do not actually want: lingerie, jewelry boxes, any jewelry that prominently features a heart, and perfume. Please consult your lady friends before buying any of these items.

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Post by Christine_NM » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:55 am

sscritic wrote:No, if you ask her, she will say she doesn't want a high end purse. Buy one anyway. Now take her shopping with you so she can choose, but don't let her pull that bogleheaded "it's too expensive."

Oh, wrong thread, same principle.
You and I are no marriage experts. :D

But why buy lingerie when she really wants a new dining room table, or new towels, or whatever.

ETA: One of the revelations of being formerly married is how much money is misspent trying to make/keep spouse happy or keep up with other couples in the neighborhood/on the Internet. I suppose it keeps the economy going.
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Post by MoonOrb » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:04 pm

sscritic wrote:No, if you ask her, she will say she doesn't want a high end purse. Buy one anyway. Now take her shopping with you so she can choose, but don't let her pull that bogleheaded "it's too expensive."

Oh, wrong thread, same principle.
If he gets this answer than he's no worse off than if he hadn't asked. So it's a question with very little downside and lots of upside. And maybe the OP is adept enough at communicating with his wife that he can ask her in a way where she won't say, "No don't get anything expensive." In any event, I don't know the OP or his wife so I'm not keen on presuming what her response might be.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by shaf2056 » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:08 pm

Another +1 for Nordstrom. Yes, they can be pricey but are well worth the investment. Better fit, more comfortable, and they last longer.

Gap is also a great place for pretty, comfortable items that wear well (and you can get a lot of it on sale!).

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Post by sscritic » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:12 pm

If a gift is really just about the recipient choosing what the recipient wants to get, then stick with gift cards or a check. My concept of a gift includes some thought about the recipient on the part of the giver.

P.S. As a husband, I had no problem trying to choose a gift I liked. That's why I went purse shopping with my wives: one, so they could benefit from my valuable insight as to which purses would look nice on them, and two, so I could benefit from my valuable insight as to which purses looked nice on them.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by ResearchMed » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:21 pm

MoonOrb wrote:
sscritic wrote:No, if you ask her, she will say she doesn't want a high end purse. Buy one anyway. Now take her shopping with you so she can choose, but don't let her pull that bogleheaded "it's too expensive."

Oh, wrong thread, same principle.
If he gets this answer than he's no worse off than if he hadn't asked. So it's a question with very little downside and lots of upside. And maybe the OP is adept enough at communicating with his wife that he can ask her in a way where she won't say, "No don't get anything expensive." In any event, I don't know the OP or his wife so I'm not keen on presuming what her response might be.
Not quite, in some cases at least.

Once she's said something like, "Oh, no I really don't want/need x <or an expensive x>", then it is likely to be a lot more awkward getting precisely that for her.

OP has been happily married a long time.
Presumably he has some understanding of whether DW hasn't bothered to get a few certain nice things, hasn't had the time until recently, or just doesn't think about things like that, vs previous comments about how much she hates or otherwise disapproves of such things.
And there also may be styles she hasn't seen, or doesn't realize can indeed be comfortable, etc.

Plus, in some cases, surprises ARE nice :happy

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by semperlux » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:48 pm

Been there, done that, would not do it again.

Lingerie is even more personal than purses. The one time I did buy the wife some, I could tell she didn't like it through her fake polite thank you smile. She wore it once, and I have not seen it since. When I asked her if she would like some lingerie as a gift years later, she nicely suggested I get her something else. Message received.

The only scenario I can see this happening is if your wife goes with you to choose, and / or you have her model some for you to spice up the marriage. Otherwise, I'd leave it to her to choose something to surprise you. Just tell her what floats your boat.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by ResearchMed » Tue Jul 15, 2014 12:52 pm

semperlux wrote:Been there, done that, would not do it again.

Lingerie is even more personal than purses. The one time I did buy the wife some, I could tell she didn't like it through her fake polite thank you smile. She wore it once, and I have not seen it since. When I asked her if she would like some lingerie as a gift years later, she nicely suggested I get her something else. Message received.

The only scenario I can see this happening is if your wife goes with you to choose, and / or you have her model some for you to spice up the marriage. Otherwise, I'd leave it to her to choose something to surprise you. Just tell her what floats your boat.
Agreed.

I was referring to the simply "asking" part.

Don't ask a question if there is a reasonable chance you won't like the answer, especially if the answer might be different if the situation were to be handled somewhat differently.

Accompanying her would likely be a very nice touch.

Attorneys have their own variation of this question.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Boglemama » Tue Jul 15, 2014 2:39 pm

Rupert wrote:First, are you sure she'll appreciate this gift? Some women do not like fancy underthings. They wear Jockey for a reason. Second, are you sure this gift is not for you, instead of her? On many an occasion I have encountered men shopping in stores like Victoria's Secret and thought to myself: "Oh, that poor woman. Not getting anything she actually wants for [insert special occasion]." Men of the world, listen -- The following is a list of items that men think women want but women often do not actually want: lingerie, jewelry boxes, any jewelry that prominently features a heart, and perfume. Please consult your lady friends before buying any of these items.
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by MN-Investor » Tue Jul 15, 2014 2:40 pm

Munir wrote:PS: I noticed that only two or three women commented in the above thread. Are males the exprerts on female lingerie?
I don't know how I got counted in your summary. Should I change my shiny blue avatar to a pink one so you can tell I'm female? :P
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Boglemama » Tue Jul 15, 2014 2:40 pm

retiredjg wrote:Professor Emeritus, I am impressed that you would even ask the question. Good for you!

Part of this depends on what you consider "underwear". If you mean those things that women wear on top and on bottom every day, getting a nice set might be fun for the both of you.

But don't expect her to wear it a lot. If she is wearing Jockey and Haynes, it is likely because that is what is comfortable for her. Those pretty things can be itchy or sticky or dig into her shoulders or a whole lot of things that may not appeal to her if she has a strong practical streak and finds comfort to be primary.

If you mean something other than everyday undies, find out what fabric she likes before you buy something. If she likes a cotton nightgown, don't buy polyester. But another natural fabric, like silk, might be fine.

Good luck with this one! You must be something special to have even thought to ask. :happy
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Professor Emeritus » Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:02 pm

First let me say thank you to all and note that I got a number of PM.

I noted sscritics willingness to do some search work and take one for the team. +1

I perhaps should have noted that DW is :D "thriftier" than the average Boglehead :D and perhaps needed some encouragement that at least some bogleladies (and yes in this subject I think that is a fair term) "support" the expenditure.

I integrated the answers and will send DW and our two daughters to Intimacy and Nordstoms with instructions to buy anything DW likes, IF she likes anything. Daughters are to overcome any price inhibitions but DW is final judge on suitability. They will pay cash so I have no idea how much was involved.

I got excellent technical advice from an outside source on the role of gravity in the 1956 essay A Stress Analysis of a Strapless Evening Gown,"
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by retiredjg » Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:19 pm

Professor Emeritus wrote:I integrated the answers and will send DW and our two daughters to Intimacy and Nordstoms with instructions to buy anything DW likes, IF she likes anything. Daughters are to overcome any price inhibitions but DW is final judge on suitability. They will pay cash so I have no idea how much was involved.
This is an excellent approach. Please let us know what happens!

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by celia » Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:33 pm

DualIncomeNoDebt wrote:As for budget, I usually get a gift certificate of around $500 when she goes.
WOW, I'd much rather have $500 of stock!

I read this thread as the title caught my eye. But I didn't read the one about purses, since I stopped carrying a purse when I retired. We like to walk more now and I just pop a cell phone and thin wallet in my pockets. Hands free now!

(For years a purse doubled as a diaper bag--handy if it had lots of pockets to keep things separate--but not needed any more)
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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by Munir » Tue Jul 15, 2014 5:31 pm

MN-Investor wrote:
Munir wrote:PS: I noticed that only two or three women commented in the above thread. Are males the exprerts on female lingerie?
I don't know how I got counted in your summary. Should I change my shiny blue avatar to a pink one so you can tell I'm female? :P
Yep :D . Sorry for the omission.

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Re: A question for the Bogleladies or those who can consult

Post by magazinewriter » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:50 pm

Professor Emeritus wrote:First let me say thank you to all and note that I got a number of PM.

I noted sscritics willingness to do some search work and take one for the team. +1

I perhaps should have noted that DW is :D "thriftier" than the average Boglehead :D and perhaps needed some encouragement that at least some bogleladies (and yes in this subject I think that is a fair term) "support" the expenditure.

I integrated the answers and will send DW and our two daughters to Intimacy and Nordstoms with instructions to buy anything DW likes, IF she likes anything. Daughters are to overcome any price inhibitions but DW is final judge on suitability. They will pay cash so I have no idea how much was involved.

I got excellent technical advice from an outside source on the role of gravity in the 1956 essay A Stress Analysis of a Strapless Evening Gown,"
http://io9.com/a-structural-engineer-pe ... 1494167139
I think that Nordstrom is an excellent choice. Let us know how it goes.

Recently I went into Victoria's Secret (had a coupon for a free spray scent) and felt that the store was more for younger women although my mom's friend shopped there well into her 90s.

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