southwest_stacker wrote:Lots of good advice here - Thanks.
Travel may be an option. I travel a lot for work. Maybe 150+ days a year on the road including some international. When I am not working I like to be at home not traveling more. I think my wife would like to travel places but I have been so many places I really enjoy just being home. The other issue is we have small children and the wife will not leave them anywhere so it is hard for us to just get away.
I guess it is just crazy to me where my life is right now. I love my family, I enjoy my work, I am making more money than I ever dreamed I would and I just feel like something is missing like I never do anything for myself....
You love your family... you are already "on the road" almost half the time and really enjoy being home... but you think your wife would like to travel but she won't leave the children...
Okay... do you have a babysitter? Do you have a babysitter who is ultra-responsible (yup, will cost more), and someone who is NOT constrained by school schedules... a "nanny" type person?
Have a nice talk with your wife, at a nice restaurant or at home with a nice bottle of wine - that's one way to start enjoying time together.
Plan to find someone special to help with the children, someone who can travel with you.
Have the person get to know your children, and both you and your wife, perhaps by having her/him spend some time caring for the children when you are home, too.
Then... find a way to travel so that you feel "at home".
Don't plan to drive around, staying at a different hotel/motel each night.
A few possibilities:
- Find a hotel in a location you both want to explore, and rent at least connecting rooms, one for you and your wife, one for the children and nanny, or splurge for a suite, which will be more like a "home" than "a couple of hotel rooms";
- Take a cruise, and get a couple of staterooms, or a suite, as above. This is especially nice, because it's sort of like "the hotel follows you around", as you wake up each morning in a new location to explore or relax (*you* aren't the one traveling each day);
- For the ultimate "home" experience, rent a luxurious vacation home (not a tiny condo or small, spartan cabin). There are some where you do the cooking yourself, all the way to those that come with a chef for all meals, or perhaps one where a chef or housekeeper can be requested "as needed".
Discuss with your wife what type of accommodations you and she would enjoy and where. Lots of activities (hiking, horseback riding, or...)? Lots of relaxing together (beach or lake)?
Or see what your wife suggests during or after a discussion about this type of "family time together".
The important thing is that you both find something - location, activities - that you LOOK FORWARD TO, something that makes you HAPPY just thinking about it.
And then... try to enjoy it, the times with the children, and some times without them.
I hope you can find something that works.
Or maybe something totally different will come out of the discussions.