Sounds to me like you guys need to reassess your asset allocation plan. This is exactly what is meant by making sure your asset allocation plan is in line with what you can and cannot accept with a market decline
This always sounds so nice and if we weren't human, maybe it would even be reasonable.
A 50% market decline will stress almost everyone, retirees and pre-retirees especially.
This concept of "right asset allocation for any market condition" is a bunch of hooy in my view. If my situation warrants that I have to have 40% equities in order to meet my portfolio growth needs, am I supposed to be happy about losing 20% of my life savings? On a $500,000 portfolio, that's $100,000.
Who can lose $100,000 and feel good about it?
So what I'm saying is don't market time, pick the best AA you can for your situation, but don't feel bad about worrying a little. It's normal.
best,