What fools we mortals be. From about age 10 to 20, we want to look older than we are, in our 20s we're fairly happy looking our age, and after 30 we want to look younger than we are.
pjstack wrote:Sure they do, only now they call me "Sir" and offer to help me get my walker into/out of the car.
I was career military and was addressed as "sir" and addressed a lot of others as "sir." One day shortly after I retired, a young person held a door open for me; I said thanks. She said "You're welcome, sir." It was at that point I realized that "sir" had taken on a whole new meaning in my life.
I was raised - in the south - to address every adult male as "sir" (and every adult femaile as "ma'am"), which I pretty much still do, even to those half my age (not sure how they all take it, now that I'm living in the mid-Atlantic region). So being addressed as "sir" doesn't bother me.
Fallible wrote: nisiprius wrote:
To the young 'uns, when you see Medicare Part D brochures with a picture like this
remember that these models look young and sexy
--to the target audience....
If you've visited enough (one is enough) nursing homes, assisted living centers, adult day care centers, group homes or continuous care centers, or have tried to adequately care for ailing parents or relatives in their homes, you know how far from reality photos such as these can be. I may just be overreacting, but compared to much of what goes on out there, I sometimes consider photos like these not just unrealistic but cruel.
Well, it's true those photos are far from the reality of many older people - but there are many younger people whose reality is very far from that of typical young people photos. On my run today I passed a few people walking who looked like they were in their 20s and were so obese that their silhouettes were approaching circularity. I suppose such photos may seem cruel to them - to say nothing of the young people who are physically marred by illness, injury, or genetic disorder.
Which leads me to this point, for the OP and everyone else: thinking about what you don't have, or have lost, is a great way to make yourself unhappy. Being thankful for what you have is a good step toward being happy. There is a tremendous amount of suffering in this world, in light of which being concerned about fading physical attractiveness seems absurdly inconsequential. If you have a sound mind in a sound body, rejoice and be grateful for your good fortune - and smiling is very attractive.
We cannot absolutely prove [that they are wrong who say] that we have seen our best days. But so said all who came before us, and with just as much apparent reason.
| -T. B. Macaulay (1800-1859)